This part sounds basic. It saved me.
- iPhone Screen Time: I set downtime at 9 p.m. and blocked browsers after 10 p.m. My husband knows the passcode. When I travel, I switch to a simple code and tell Beth.
- DNS filter: I used CleanBrowsing Family on my home Wi-Fi. It blocked a lot of junk at the router.
- Bedroom rule: Phone charges in the kitchen. I read a paper Bible like it’s 1998. Wild, I know.
Side note for spouses wanting to support without becoming the phone police: here’s an honest review of being married to someone with a porn addiction that my husband found clarifying.
Sometimes it helps to see exactly what kinds of pages your filters should be catching. One of the rabbit holes I bumped into during late-night scrolling was French “Snap” directories that advertise explicit content—things like Snap de Pute —visiting that link (preferably with your accountability partner beside you or through a tested filter) lets you verify whether your current safeguards are strong enough to block high-risk material before it blindsides you again. Another class of pages that can sneak past weak settings is the wave of Backpage replacement boards—peeking at this Palm Coast Backpage mirror shows how quickly a simple-looking local classifieds site can pivot into explicit escort ads, giving you a concrete test case for whether your blocker is truly up to the job.
Real life example: On a work trip, hotel Wi-Fi was sketchy. I asked the front desk to remove adult channels from the TV. The guy said, “Nobody asks for that.” I smiled and said, “Well, I do.” Then I ate gummy bears and watched a cooking show. Temptation shrank.