How is PA different for younger people

[Vorlan]

OK I intend this to promote discussion, so yeah why is PA different in some ways when you're younger.

For example:

- Having to hide it from parents (For teens mainly)

- Having to fit things around school/college/Uni

All that sort of thing! :) Feel free to develop this topic, how you cope with these differences is good as well!

Best wishes,

Ben

[nickycole]

Form me hiding it wasn't that hard. Mostly used the computer but if I did print something out, I just left in plain sight along with school work cause no on would look there. Before school was risky when looking at P cause I might have missed the bus but eventually I didnt care.

This past year our school's filter was down half the year. I didn't look at P sites on my computer but some Freshmen did and I just kinda looked over their shoulder, and acted like that was so nasty and disgusting. I didn't over do it cause I was being so hypocritical. Hated those classes cause then I'd be distracted for my last class which was super important. I got a C in that class at the end of the year too.:-<#-o

[Vorlan]

Yeah, I think that the hiding was part of the attraction in the end. Some peope managed to get P on the computers at my last school and I was always very against it publicly even though at my own home I was looking at much worse stuff. It's that double life thing again I guess. I mean I would find myself trying to be extra-good to make up for the badness of watching P. That Jekyll and Hyde analargy is suprisingly accurate!

Yeah, I was always scared about printing things out...I would always delete everything after a P-session. I was always terrified that I would be caught!

Thanks for the insight Nicky! :)

All the Best,

Ben

[darknessarise]

Well, hiding it wasn't much of problem. Even though I got very close to getting caught a couple of time. That only gave me an extra rush. But schoolwork was the biggest problem.
As we know all to well, schoolwork isn't something that just keeps going round in your head tempting you to do it. So I usually watched P instead of studying. By the time I got back to studying it was usually too late. Which meanse that I am not able to sleep, which led to my semi constant sleeping problems. Just as I am typing this. I have a huge math HW that I need to submit tommorow. So it looks like, no sleep tonight. All because I spent most of the weekend on P.

[guitarwhiz56]

Somehow I was able to juggle P around while at the same time studying. With all modesty I soak up info like a sponge so i don't need to study that much. I didn't really have a problem with doing what I needed to do. The real problem for me was that I neglected my social life to an extent instead of going out and enjoying the randomness of college. Now I'm in my last year of school and I feel like I missed out on so much because I was stuck in my dorm room hoping my roommate wouldn't walk in.
Now my greatest worry is that since I'm going to be working soon, will the temptation to use my work computer for P be stronger than my will to not look at P...This worries me. I've had on and offs with P for the past year and I'm having trouble dealing with it.

[TakingMeBack]

I'm surprised that I have not yet overcome this pattern of porn consumption. For all my good intentions I haven't made a great deal of progress.
The greatest constraint to my recovery has been the power of old scheduling influences. I find that if I have the house to myself I feel obligated to pull up some porn on the computer, regardless of a previous desire or present urge. I am no longer responding to sexual tension and alleviating it with masturbation- but instead creating the desire out of opportunity alone.
I decided to move out of my parents house and in with a female roommate. This drastic change in environment will break any patterns that I am conditioned to with this living situation. In my new house I am keeping the computer in a common room with the monitor in plain sight of all passers by.
Also I am hoping to restrict my computer usage to times when my roommate is home. I've felt angry at coming home to a house with a parent's car outside when I am hell bent on masturbating. But to have the empty driveway as a turn on is discouraging.
I am loathing myself for not wanting control over this habit. I hear a flimsy internal argument when the drive overcomes me- but more often than not I think that this motivates me to look at porn more than anything else. Its a pairing of a self loathing cycle mixed with a need to exercise freedom-- but my freedom is only adding more bars to my cell.

[glovert]

i also think its the whole issue with everyone around you -esp at school, watching porn as well

[munkman12]

have any of you guys thought about going to church. in church im sure that either the priest or pastor or reverend can inspire some great words for you to listen to. then there is the fact that god will always be with you

[yorkie_owner_85]

Form me hiding it wasn't that hard. Mostly used the computer but if I did print something out, I just left in plain sight along with school work cause no on would look there. Before school was risky when looking at P cause I might have missed the bus but eventually I didnt care.

This past year our school's filter was down half the year. I didn't look at P sites on my computer but some Freshmen did and I just kinda looked over their shoulder, and acted like that was so nasty and disgusting. I didn't over do it cause I was being so hypocritical. Hated those classes cause then I'd be distracted for my last class which was super important. I got a C in that class at the end of the year too.:-<#-o

It was a similar situation with me and my PA. In school, I would also miss the bus because I became too preoccupied looking at P. In high school, we were loaned laptops for our classes and I figured out how to get around the filters using serch engines and words like "Anatomy" [sic] and "HUman Body."

[dondeluis]

Somehow I was able to juggle P around while at the same time studying. With all modesty I soak up info like a sponge so i don't need to study that much. I didn't really have a problem with doing what I needed to do. The real problem for me was that I neglected my social life to an extent instead of going out and enjoying the randomness of college. Now I'm in my last year of school and I feel like I missed out on so much because I was stuck in my dorm room hoping my roommate wouldn't walk in.
Now my greatest worry is that since I'm going to be working soon, will the temptation to use my work computer for P be stronger than my will to not look at P...This worries me. I've had on and offs with P for the past year and I'm having trouble dealing with it.

Man this is me completely, but I think it's going to catch up with us eventually. Right now im in a 4 year Honours Degree with an 80 average, I think that would be a 90 without PA. And when I do my Master's, I can't have this, it will not happen.