How is PA different for younger people

[cabby12]

I think society in general makes PA different for younger people. TV, Movies, the internet have all made huge leaps and bounds over the last 10 years. I remember when my addiction first started 10 years ago I was using an old dial-up 56k connection, as years went on it not only became easier to access P by the temptation and triggers became much more frequent.

[WifeOfNewLifeMan]

I agree that access and societal cues that says its ok to think about sx and related things 24/7 is much different now for younger people.

But, I am also making things different for my son (nearly 16) by talking to him, whether he wants to hear it or not. Society is made up of people. I, as one small part of society, plan to impress upon the young people that I know that in spite of what you see or hear or read, sx is not the most important thing.

If sx is everywhere, then instead of acting like giggling kids in a locker room, we need to have real conversations. If people aren't embarassed to watch comedy shows about people mb and watching P, or movies about it, or your friend at work who makes sxual comments... then people don't need to be embarassed to talk about problems related to P.

[cabby12]

WifeofANewLifeMan I think you are completely on the right track. The way things start to change is with parents talking to their kids about P the same way they would talk to their kids about other drugs. As I look to my future and my kids, I hope to have an open dialog with my kids about all these things. Good Job.

[LPA]

Note: I in NO WAY POSSIBLE want to discourage another other individual for seeking recovery because they are older.

I am only 22 years old, and I have been slowly going through recovery for about 1.5 years now after using since I was 14. One of the positive aspects about this whole process is that I know I still have time to change my life around and fix the mistakes of the past before carrying them into adulthood.

A lot of my problems regarding P had to do with juvenile feelings of angst, hopelessness, and confusion about life. P was able to fill the gaps and allow me to escape, no matter the horrendous consequences. But I do not feel angsty anymore and I have no reason to hide myself from existence.

If there are young people reading this, please know that you still have time to recover and cast off this demon. Make your addiction define who you were and as simple-minded youngster and who you arenow as an adult.

[yorkie_owner_85]

Make your addiction define who you were and as simple-minded youngster and who you arenow as an adult.

I agree. P addiction shouldn't define who we are as a person.

[tru2myself]

I agree wholeheartedly that porn and sexual content has increased steadily over the past years via internet and other commonly used mediums (television, movies, and magazines). For example, my Dad ordered a magazine subscription on weight lifting and personal fitness. Since I’m currently lifting weights (summer is almost here and I want to feel good at the beach etc...), I decided to flip through the pages to see if I could gain any tips and strategies. Bad move!!! After flipping through a few pages I came across sexy, muscular women dressed in very short spandex shorts and a tight top to match. I began looking through the damn thing full of all the other beautiful women. Being a recovering PA, I just couldn’t help my perverted self. Did I relapse? (I’m currently a week and a half sober) No, Thank God! But it sure doesn’t help me in my progress.

The truth of the matter is women have become over sexualized in our entertainment industries and media for decades now. Sex sells and some people are bloodthirsty over the green paper. Until moral standards take higher value than the mighty dollar, we’ll continue to see an increase in sexual imagery with every passing year. Of course, morality will never outweigh the chance to make millions. The sad thing is someone’s riding around in a Lamborghini with the same money that I, you and the other PAs on this forum gave them. Someone is profiting off the addiction that has ruined the lives of so many. This someone doesn’t care about the PA’s failed marriage, struggle with depression, or failed career. As long as their bank accounts remain full they could care less about the negative effects their business causes. To tell you the truth, they might as well be selling crack to drug addicts. Besides the legality of drug trafficking, both means of making money are profiteering off a prominent addiction that’s destroying countless lives everyday. What’s the difference?

[exteberria]

I speak now as a 22 year old man. But I think the thing that made it different for us growing up, was that as we were discovering ourselves from 14 years onwards, access to p became soo much easier. P was so accepted amongst people at school. I know we used to just share it between each other in the form of dvds/videos. And for a lot of people that has still carried on. I know for me, I've only realised in the last 12 to 18months - that even using 3 or 4 times a year is not normal, and just generates negativity inside me.
I think the scariest thing is the amount of 14 to 18 year olds using it. I've heard they are supposed to be the majority of p users. And I know from my own experiences - I thought the way women were in the films, was the way they were in real life (yes I know stupid). It really rubbed off badly on girls that I met, and I'm so glad how far I've come.

All I can say is, I will never have internet in the house I live in, not just for me, but for the sake of my children growing up.

[PER50NA]

I think it is alot more accepted for young people to look at P like people look at it like no big deal there like atleast its not drugs