How has P affected your social life?

[Little lock]

As the title says. For me, the most major part has probably been when I fell for this girl, and I was wondering how to explain this whole mess to her if we got together.

[guitarwhiz56]

For me it was definitely a problem where I would spend time looking at P rather than hang out with friends. I've become distant with a lot of people and that's something I need to work on.

[hangingin]

staying in rather than calling up a friend to get out for feelings of shame.
P can really poison you if you let it control your life

[Gary]

As the title says. For me, the most major part has probably been when I fell for this girl, and I was wondering how to explain this whole mess to her if we got together.

So how did that go? I'm having the same problem. I met this girl that I know I could ask out, and I know she's probably waiting for me to, but I can't get passed when the time comes I won't be able to have a sexual relationship because porn is what I like most. Porn has a hold on me. It's not a constant addiction for me, but it's to the point where it is all that I know or enjoy. It's become a habit. I'm so angry with myself for the years that I've spent with this. It's going to take a long time to undo in my brain, but I'm so sick of it i'm going to cut it out of my life if only for punishment. Hopefully though, It can lead into a healthy relationship on day. Until then, I can't bring myself to put my burden's on someone else.

[Little lock]

Actually, this story has a happy ending in that we're together now.:) Most PA's concerns is that having a relationship while in recovery might affect the sexual side of things, as a PA is normally uninterested in sex, and thus lead to a breakdown. But, I'm 14, she's 14, so underage sex would get me thrown into a boys home. And I'm not trying to boast here or anything, but I think I have got to a stage where all the desenstivty which I exposed myself to is starting to unravel. Maybe it's because of my young age, which might explain why my mind can "unlearn" things so quickly.

So yeah, I thought I would chance having a relationship, although I swore a miilion times never to let myself go down that p-infested road which has destroyed so many relationships.

[Gary]

Actually, this story has a happy ending in that we're together now.:) Most PA's concerns is that having a relationship while in recovery might affect the sexual side of things, as a PA is normally uninterested in sex, and thus lead to a breakdown. But, I'm 14, she's 14, so underage sex would get me thrown into a boys home. And I'm not trying to boast here or anything, but I think I have got to a stage where all the desenstivty which I exposed myself to is starting to unravel. Maybe it's because of my young age, which might explain why my mind can "unlearn" things so quickly.

So yeah, I thought I would chance having a relationship, although I swore a miilion times never to let myself go down that p-infested road which has destroyed so many relationships.

Right on brother!

[Thisisme18]

It made me feel paranoid, and made all my thoughts revolve around sexual activities with the person.

[Searching4peace]

Actually, this story has a happy ending in that we're together now.:) Most PA's concerns is that having a relationship while in recovery might affect the sexual side of things, as a PA is normally uninterested in sex, and thus lead to a breakdown. But, I'm 14, she's 14, so underage sex would get me thrown into a boys home. And I'm not trying to boast here or anything, but I think I have got to a stage where all the desenstivty which I exposed myself to is starting to unravel. Maybe it's because of my young age, which might explain why my mind can "unlearn" things so quickly.

So yeah, I thought I would chance having a relationship, although I swore a miilion times never to let myself go down that p-infested road which has destroyed so many relationships.

Man I'm so out of touch...it's been so long since we've talked...I'm so proud of you Lock...Really. >:D<

Peace and love,
Crys

[bass-man]

So how did that go? I'm having the same problem. I met this girl that I know I could ask out, and I know she's probably waiting for me to, but I can't get passed when the time comes I won't be able to have a sexual relationship because porn is what I like most. Porn has a hold on me. It's not a constant addiction for me, but it's to the point where it is all that I know or enjoy. It's become a habit. I'm so angry with myself for the years that I've spent with this. It's going to take a long time to undo in my brain, but I'm so sick of it i'm going to cut it out of my life if only for punishment. Hopefully though, It can lead into a healthy relationship on day. Until then, I can't bring myself to put my burden's on someone else.

I'm with you brother. I just got done with a porn binge myself, and I can say first hand that the feeling is not all that great. It's ~X(to find myself going back and forth. Because of my PA, I a lot of doubts about myself. Because of that, I tend to avoid relationships, even though I want to know what it's like to have a girlfriend.

[Dosta_je]

How has it influenced my life? Badly! :)
That's why I'm here. There really was much influence for these 10+ years. For one, it has disconnected me from reality (although, there's also the computer-factor, growing up with the computer and not real life friends) and made me feel bad about myself. And terribly insecure. It has been a great obstacle for relationships, but breaking that barrier was the first big win for me.
And that's just one part of it...
Vladimir