How has P affected your social life?

[Disillusioned]

To all the brave young men who are struggling with this, you have my sincere empathy. I feel terrible that this was allowed to get out there and so available while you were in your formative years. I feel so sad for the time you missed, getting to talk to other people, getting to hear other ideas, getting to know many different girls and how they think and react. I am so sorry that all this P has caused you to fee; so guilty that you have trouble focusing on the conversation because you are seeing body parts in your brains. How I wish I could have been part of some effort trying to get rid of this.
I can tell you that it isolates us as adults as well. I have been depressed and hiding myself for the major part of the last 4 years. It made me feel so ugly and unwanted. It made me hurt like a huge gash in my chest. I am a mature, educated woman, mother, friend, and wife, and it did this to me.
Look how strong each of you are, in that you recognize that something is wrong and that there should be more in your lives and that P has stolen it from each of you. Believe in yourselves...that strength is not to be devalued or minimized. You have a lot of faulty thinking to get rid of, you have a lot of bad images to try to bury. You are starting out socially back in the early teens. You have a lot of catching up to do. Best try to remove sex and romance from it for a bit till you start finding that you can be comfortable with people of your own age, including girls. Since so many other young men have to be hurting from this too, recognize that they are probably equally confused when they scoff at your efforts to get rid of this. Many do not have your degree of insight and self-awareness. It truly breaks my heart that my generation did not stop this and protect you all from this.
God bless you in your struggle to free yourself from this web.
disillusioned

[TYC113]

[QUOTE=Disillusioned;72634]To all the brave young men who are struggling with this, you have my sincere empathy. I feel terrible that this was allowed to get out there and so available while you were in your formative years. I feel so sad for the time you missed, getting to talk to other people, getting to hear other ideas, getting to know many different girls and how they think and react. I am so sorry that all this P has caused you to fee; so guilty that you have trouble focusing on the conversation because you are seeing body parts in your brains. How I wish I could have been part of some effort trying to get rid of this.
I can tell you that it isolates us as adults as well. I have been depressed and hiding myself for the major part of the last 4 years. It made me feel so ugly and unwanted. It made me hurt like a huge gash in my chest. I am a mature, educated woman, mother, friend, and wife, and it did this to me.
Look how strong each of you are, in that you recognize that something is wrong and that there should be more in your lives and that P has stolen it from each of you. Believe in yourselves...that strength is not to be devalued or minimized. You have a lot of faulty thinking to get rid of, you have a lot of bad images to try to bury. You are starting out socially back in the early teens. You have a lot of catching up to do. Best try to remove sex and romance from it for a bit till you start finding that you can be comfortable with people of your own age, including girls. Since so many other young men have to be hurting from this too, recognize that they are probably equally confused when they scoff at your efforts to get rid of this. Many do not have your degree of insight and self-awareness. It truly breaks my heart that my generation did not stop this and protect you all from this.
God bless you in your struggle to free yourself from this web.
disillusioned[/QUOTE

That is great advice and I am going to take it, DIsillusioned. I hope that I can get to the point where the mental images of P don't pop into mind constantly and constantly. It would be nice to have a long period of time without thinking of P. I would be happy with that. And you're right. I am starting from the ground up in terms of interaction with girls. This will be tough for me, really tough. But this is something I have to do.