help, im mostly lost

[mcbaldev]

long story short, i do beleive i have a problem. its nothing very extreme as far as how it has affected my life in most ways. however the one way it has affected my life is with my gf. that alone is worth takeing steps to change, no matter what those steps may involve. i dont want this to become something more serious than it already is, and i cannot lose this girl, she is the world to me. i am sort of lost as to what exactly to do, as well as what not to do. getting online on this site sounds good and all, reading forums and what not. but i need a guide to help me. anyone would be a huge help. thank you so much.

[JenMac]

HI Mcbaldev! Welcome to TTF! You have found a great place to be to assist you in overcome your struggles with P. There are many here who have experienced the same as you in relation to the damaging effects of P on their lives.
I am an SO here and my H is here also, his name is Mac. We have been here for about 6 months.
You are already aware that you have a problem and being aware is the first step to overcoming any addiction. This addiction can effect your relationship like no other! It is very damaging to the selfworth of both the PA and the SO. While it is admirable that you want to conquer this addiction so that you won't lose this relationship, you must really want to do this for yourself, first and foremost, otherwise you will most likely fail. Consider what this is doing to your life, how you are effected emotionally, mentally and physically. Perhaps you already know this but I think you will discover even more as you step away from this.
Wishing you all the best as you move forward! I am glad you are here. Read, read and read some more! Put your thoughts down in your journal. Become aware of your triggers and devise a plan to deal with them. What are you going to do to ensure you will not fall to temptations? How will you spend your time? Making a plan is important!
Take care Mcbaldev!
Keep coming back!
Jenn