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Default 06-18-2008, 11:57 AM
Haha! You got me :p

Day 18 and I feel great!
   
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Default 06-18-2008, 12:06 PM
Dane, I really love your positivity and genuinely feel excited for you.

As the days go on, you really do learn so much more about yourself and the real world. It can shock you at what youve been missing. It always pleases me to read someone going down their journey and sharing new wonderful finds!

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TI'm now at day 16 and I noticed that I find my whife
more y now! Strange, I've always thought she's hot, but something's different!
I share this thought, I neglected my wife so much, and then suddenly its like, Wow, Your hot! Really truly love her to bits now, and got a lot to make up for!

Well done Dane, and wish both you and your wife the best.

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Default 06-18-2008, 01:16 PM
Congratulations Dane! I see you are doing really well, and are already enjoying the fruits of your labour! NOthing is better than that.

I just want to comment on one thing that at least for my part would be a very dark looming cloud: You're getting adult TV in your home in a few weeks time!? Maybe you'll do fine, but to me it sounds very much like approaching a threshold you should stay away from.

Voksen-tv. Det er fali, det.

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Default 06-18-2008, 04:25 PM
Thanks to both of you!
Yeh, I guess I am a possitive guy

And Nordman: I know. Put as you know, here in Norway, their shutting down the
analog tv signals september 2th, so I had to get digital tv.
And with the family pacage, adult tv is in it.

I've talked to my whife about it, and we're not making any password stuff on it.
I will mannage to do this, even with that channel on my tv!
It is kind of the same thing as the internet, and there's no password there and I'm
doing fine so far! So I think I will mannage.

But we will make a password that only she knows about if I one day watch it.


Hyggelig å møte på en nordman her da! Trodde du het "Nordman", hehe
Lurt forum dette her, har hjulpet meg mye
   
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Default 06-18-2008, 06:13 PM
We have satellite TV, and my wife has put parental controls on that aswell. Wouldnt have it any other way. Why do I need access to somehing that I really dont want to see. Be positive and revel in it the rewards, but dont set yourself up for a fall Dane.


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Default 06-20-2008, 08:09 PM
I will not fall! We don't even have to install the channel

It's now day 20, and they say that it takes 21 days to get rid of, ore add a new
habbit. I don't say that this is just a bad habbit, but anyway.. Like to think that it is,
now where it've been almost 21 days
   
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Default 06-21-2008, 01:52 AM
Huh... This've been a really hard night..
The hardest so far!

I was just going through the tv channels now in the evening, and guess what was
on one channel. A documentary about playboy! I watched it a bit, turned the tv off,
watched a bit etc.. It wasn't P, couse they can't show that on tv, but here in Norway they
don't have to sensour away stuff, so it was not that far from P...

But I didn't MB to it! And when I went to bed, I couldn't think about anything else.
So here I am. Struggeling! Can't get my mind off it..

This documentry was about celebreties posing in the Playboy magazine and everyone
"seemd so happy about it.
They all said stuff like:
"- Playboy have changed my life!"
"- This is the best thing ever happened to me!"
etc...

And that made me doubt the things we've talked about in here. About all the women
that does this without really wanting it. But it is stuff like Playboy I've watched mostly before..


It's hard now. Because I struggle to find any reasons to quit! It feels like it's just a
thing that I like to watch! So why not watch it?
It's like I'd had to quit playing on my guitar (I do that A LOT and LOVE IT)
Why should I quit playing it?

But I'm not doing it today.. I kind of think that I would do it if it wasn't for
this forum. Or I would deffenily have done it. So you guys in here shure helps me alot!
Even I, some times, don't se the reason..

That's all.
Good night and God bless!
   
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Default 06-21-2008, 02:30 AM
Now I was really close!!
I actually made a search on google, but I stoped before it got
out of hand! And I didn't MB!
...

I'm going to bed now! I promise!!
   
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Default 06-21-2008, 02:34 AM
I think it's important that you do this for yourself. You will get the benefits of you not watching P more than anyone else. Here's a small list of benefits that I consider for myself, maybe it can help you too at this time...


Happier long term mood
More energy
More time for other stuff
Better appreciation of real woman in real life
Better connections to real woman and real people
Better social functioning and confidence
Better sexual functioning, including erection capability
Better body image
More mental strength
Overall feel more like a man



"If guys think that a girl who allows P into a relationship is the greatest gift to man, then girls think that a man who doesn't need P and is satisfied with her is the greatest gift to woman." - Jasmine

"Stop looking for romance, stop looking for sx, start looking at women, all women as potential friends" - Tipple Downs

   
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Default 06-21-2008, 03:33 PM
Thank you showmelove!

But sadly, I have to say, that I've "failed" today.
I was at the gym, working out, but couldn't think about anything else tnan P.
Never happened before, not like that.
So I came home, my whife is out with her friends and I was, like, shaking and stuff...

It was really bad, so I did it. I MB to P today, and it makes me sad..

BUT! I went 21 days without doing it!! That shure is a breakthrough and a huge record
for me!! So this 21 days have been hard, but I've learnd alot!


So I wil start over again, day 1 tomorrow. I failed, but, I'm stronger than ever!
   
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