Going to BEAT this URGE!!

[BestShot]

Good Morning Everyone!

I am getting some pretty strong urges this morning to view "P" but because I came to this website and decided to write about it I know that I will beat this thing again..this morning.

I am starting to realize that one of my "triggers" definitely is being alone with my laptop. Unfortunately, there are times during the day when this cannot be helped. This is the first trigger I have actually been able to put my finger on. (Remember, I am new to this.) The cool thing is that I am definitely becoming more sensitive to my surroundings and paying attention to potential triggers. For example, I was driving in to work this morning and saw a female jogger along the road...attractive. After I passed by I assessed how I felt. Did that trigger me? I determined that if she could run 60 miles per hour and stay with in my view for a longer period of time...yes. But, luckily, she is a slow runner so within seconds she was out of my site....thus, no trigger. Can I learn something from that? Absolutely, don't stare. See it and look away :)

I also have really enjoyed talking to several people via chat here at TTF. It is a healthy distraction that can get you through tough moments where you may feel the urge to view something you know you shouldn't.

I will be back later today to write some more as I know the urges will most likely return.

Fight on my Brothers and Sisters....fight on!!!!!

BestShot

[healme]

Hey Best;

Your the little engine that could.

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can......I did, I did, I did.

I remember reading this to my children, and their faces lit up everytime.

You can beat this, you can!

H.

[BestShot]

That was my favorite story growing up!

[BestShot]

8 Hours later I am doing pretty well. I decided to get to this website asap because I knew I would be alone with my laptop. I have conjured up a new strategy that I like. While on my laptop KEEP the TTF website up while I am doing other things on the computer. If I get an urge I will be able to immediately talk to somebody or write or read something. I believe this will help...it has today :)

I received a message from a friend of mine that I was speaking to yesterday. She said, "Don't use "P" today. I loved it as it made me accountable. The next time I speak to her I want to be able to say..."Thanks for your message, it helped me today."

Finally, at one point today I had a pretty strong urge so I just got up and left my office. I ran a couple of errands, got a GREAT cup of coffee and listened to some Collective Soul. That was a good move :)

I am back now and I feel good....a little hungry..hmmmmm I wonder what's in my lunchbox????

Talk to everyone later!

BestShot

[maggie]

Hey Best Shot... Control..over it..( the urge to look at p )

You took charge this morning..by seeking out some other form of self gratification.. and as amazing as it sounds... there are forms of pleasure that are good.. and help us grow. Definitely music and the Arts.. inspirational and meaningful!!

I ran a couple of errands, got a GREAT cup of coffee and listened to some Collective Soul. That was a good move :)

Reward yourself tonite with a great dinner.. maybe a good movie and relaxing while listening to some Boccelli !!

[healme]

Hi BS,

I decided to get to this website asap because I knew I would be alone with my laptop. I have conjured up a new strategy that I like. While on my laptop KEEP the TTF website up while I am doing other things on the computer. If I get an urge I will be able to immediately talk to somebody or write or read something. I believe this will help...it has today :)

All I can say is "brilliant" Good to share with others.

I wanted to share this post from Charly22...had a big impact on my PA and holds true for me.

Don't you understand what it does to my desire for you, when you allow yourself to lust after something/someone other than me?

Don't you understand that when you attention is focused on looking at all these other women that it diminishes my ability and desire?

Don't you understand that it makes you unattractive when I know you are obsessing about p, obsessing about enjoying someone else's body other than my own?

Don't you understand that it doesn't matter if it is a real live woman standing in front of you, or one from a magazine or dvd or website, it's the same effect inside your head?

Don't you understand that p makes me feel like I am "sharing" you?

Don't you understand that I don't want to feel cheapened, and the influence p has on you cheapens our intimacy?

Don't you understand p is a lie?

Don't you understand that those p stars are not enjoying what they are doing?

Don't you understand that p destroys the one sacred part of our relationship that is supposed to be meant for just you and I?

Don't you understand that I married you in order to be exclusive?

Don't you understand that p consumes you, and drags you off into this pit of isolation and loneliness and bitterness and absolutly no satisfaction at all?

Don't you understand that I am here for you, no matter what?

Don't you understand that I crave YOU....and I have to observe you crave something else?

Don't you understand that a relationship cannot survive a p obsession?

Don't you understand that "just a little" is a trap?

Don't you understand what happens within me, when you reach or desire for p?

Don't you understand that this is not my fault?

Don't you understand that p is an enemy?

Don't you understand....

H.

[BestShot]

Hey HM,

Hope vacation is going well! Just read that list of Don't you's that you sent me. REALLY GREAT! NO P FOR ME TODAY.

BS

[healme]

Hey BS,

I was hoping to hear form you...what great news big guy.

This road trip should have taken 8hrs and we finally arrived 12 hrs later.....We did a lot of productive talking in the car and had a fantastic day yesterday. Went out antique shopping and spent a lot of money. lol
We had a romantic evening our first night after our big drive and we really connected.......but I couldn'd sleep last night and that long alone quite time I find very difficult. So two steps forward and one back but heading in the right direction.

Keep looking at your list of don't you's and focus on your Do's ......your wife, she loves you.

Take care
H.

[BestShot]

Hi Everyone,


I just left one of the places where I work and encountered a trigger which created a very strong urge to view "P".

Here is what happened. I went to one of the places where I work to meet a new employee. I was led to the waiting area where I was told to wait for this person. At that point the receptionist walked out to greet me. In case you have not guessed it, the receptionist was the trigger. I am not going to go into details here for fear of triggering my fellow brothers and sisters in this battle but you get the picture.

After the scheduled meeting with the employee I had to walk back through the waiting area and pass by the receptionist. Trigger time!

I got into my car and began to drive back to our headquarters. During the drive I had thoughts about the receptionist but I also had thoughts about coming here to TTF!

I paid attention to my thoughts and emotions on my drive back and did the best I could to keep things under control. As soon as I got to my office I opened up my laptop, went to get a hot cup of coffee and came here to TTF. I was really hoping there would be someone here to chat with but there was not. So, next best thing, start writing!

That brings me to now. I am feeling better. Urges have submerged and I feel in control. It's incredible how certain things can trigger you. I wonder if I will ever be able to NOT be triggered by what I saw today. Maybe as opposed to not NOTICING the woman I will one day be able to appreciate the beauty with out going so far as to have thoughts about....well...you know. I think that is called objectifying??

Thanks for listening everybody!!

BestShot

[BestShot]

Hi Everybody,

It's September 20th and after a very rough start I know I am going to make it another day without "P"!!! I am a little irritated because I don't know how many days (exactly) I have been "P" free. I went 4 months with out the stuff...fell off one day a while back and now I am not sure how long it has been. I am thinking almost a month. So, to be optimistic, 4 months off. Screwed up 1 day...been off another month. I will take it!

I do still get urges. Some stronger than others but I do feel real improvement. I am recognizing that in order to win this battle I will need time. It's like building muscle in the gym. You start from nothing but you start. You are consistent. Working hard and fueling your body properly. After a couple of weeks you begin to see changes. After a month you see some real changes and you become even more motivated.

Getting off "P" is no different!

I am looking forward to having some great coffee with a friend of mine at 3pm. Can't wait to sit and talk. Way better than viewing "P"!

In conclusion, Seal Team 6 (the special forces who took out Osama Bin Laden) had a saying, "Pain is weakness leaving your body." When I feel the pain of wanting to look at "P" I should smile and say, Bring it on because this poison is on it's way OUT!

Have a great rest of your day friends!

BestShot