Going to BEAT this URGE!!

[maggie]

thanks for responding BShot.

I know this sounds so simple and a bit stupid to you, but I never thought about him lusting while looking at other women. I was thinking that the p thing was just the p thing... removed from reality. OK, I've read about guys here who ' feed the monster ' with the tv controller or gawking at the mall.... but I never thought about that aspect of his PA.

I think possibly my self-confidence level was high and I never felt his looking around was a problem. I would even point out an especially pretty woman for him !!

Now that I've learned about his PA, I am wondering if lusting after real everyday women is always a big part of PA too?

Is this another sucker punch I have to experience now? That he must have been lusting after his real life co-workers and the attractive females in our neighborhood. I absolutely would never have thought that or worried about that... I thought this s*xual lusting was confined to the explicit pics and clips of pornography...

Does this really carry into real life with real people....having these lustful s*xual thoughts, urges and ideas ? Isn't this unusual or extreme or am I naive ?

I understand the visual aspect, because I am visual as well. I look at attractive people. I look and think oh she's so cute or he is so fit he must be an athlete....or she has pretty hair.. or what a great dress.... but that's it!! A visual appraisal of people and things that look nice... How does this turn s*xual ?

[burnedout]

I understand the visual aspect, because I am visual as well. I look at attractive people. I look and think oh she's so cute or he is so fit he must be an athlete....or she has pretty hair.. or what a great dress.... but that's it!! A visual appraisal of people and things that look nice... How does this turn s*xual ?

Empirical evidence tends to show that men think about sx more than women, but I know guys who don't take it to the extreme that I do. I seem to express nearly every thought I have through the vehicle of sx, whether it's good or bad. It's either, "I feel great, I'm going to go celebrate with some MB," or, "I feel terrible, I'm going to go soothe myself with some MB." It's a learned behavior, and I'm trying to unlearn it. It's something I go to for comfort, and it causes someone else discomfort. In the long run, it causes me discomfort as well.

[healme]

Well said Charly22 and thank you Jenmac. I could not have said it better myself.

So much wisdom here.

H.

[BestShot]

Hi Everyone,

It's been a great day. In fact, a good past couple of days. No urges to view "P". I do think about my addiction each day but for the last 48 hours I have not had any urges to look at the stuff.

I have also noticed that my mind is REALLY clearing up. I am thinking better at work. I am able to carry on conversations with people much more easily....willingly.

I simply feel great. I know not to let my guard down and I am absolutely not doing that. I am simply enjoying where I am. I feel normal :)

Hang in there!

BestShot

[TYC113]

Awesome. I am so glad that you are having much success and are seeing the rewards from breaking from P slavery. This is so great that you are having better relations with your co-workers.

[BestShot]

Hi Everyone,

I am taking the time to write as I have not done so in probably a week.

Things have been going very well. I have not had even the slightest urge in probably 7 plus days. I am not sure why the urges have vanished but I think I big part of it is coming here and talking to others and writing. If you have read any of my previous posts you know that I have used this site as an outlet. Whenever an urge strikes I come here and find somebody to talk to or if nobody is around I just put my feelings down here. Doing this has allowed me to channel all of that negative energy and behavior into something positive and I credit this for my improvement.

I have been continuing to keep this site up on my laptop when I am working just in case I do get an urge. I think that this strategy is excellent.

For all of you who feel like you are NEVER going to break free of this addiction please don't quit. If you are questioning whether giving up "P" is really a dumb idea, it isn't. I know now that there is light on the other side of the tunnel. The tunnel is long, and I have to say for many it is probably very long and dark but if you look closely you will see the light. Keep moving towards that light....even when you want to turn around and go back into the darkness of "P".

In conclusion, if you are in that place where "P" is calling please know that if you resist you will be rewarded. Rewarded in many ways.

Remember, "Pain is weakness leaving the body". The urges are the pain....they are there because they are on their way out. Let them leave.

Hang in there my brothers and sisters.

-BestShot

[2frustrated]

I paid attention to my thoughts and emotions on my drive back and did the best I could to keep things under control. As soon as I got to my office I opened up my laptop, went to get a hot cup of coffee and came here to TTF.

I love it! Focus on the thoughts and feelings to keep aware of them. An excellent strategy. Pushing those emotions aways only allows them to remain in the background, ready to attack. By being aware, we shed light on those "demons."

[BestShot]

Love that response. exactly right!

[Want2BeFree]

Hi Everyone,

It's been a great day. In fact, a good past couple of days. No urges to view "P". I do think about my addiction each day but for the last 48 hours I have not had any urges to look at the stuff.

I have also noticed that my mind is REALLY clearing up. I am thinking better at work. I am able to carry on conversations with people much more easily....willingly.

I simply feel great. I know not to let my guard down and I am absolutely not doing that. I am simply enjoying where I am. I feel normal :)

Hang in there!

BestShot

Hey Bestshot,

How far in we're you at this point? I'm really craving the mental clarity, and the social advantages.