The truth is painful - but required

[Dominus]

Wow, Anxiously Engaged! I really like you! you really encouraged me, sooo good to have you around again!

good to hear from you too FM!

[Disillusioned]

FM, I don't have anything to add and no advice for you. But, I did want to say thank you. I have read your journal and learned much.

Good luck with the struggles in which you now find yourself.

[AnxiouslyEngaged]

Hey FM,

I just now realized that you replied to that post. Not sure how I missed it.

Anyway, I'm very happy to be wrong :) But it was good to be able to write all that stuff out anyway, even if it wasn't precisely pertinent to you, and I'm grateful you're not offended. Though I would be surprised if you were, because it would be so far outside of your personality.

It's good to be back after all these, yes, years. I've grown up a bit since I was last here, and I think I'm more prepared to contribute in a meaningful way now, as I make real progress toward my own recovery.

Feel free to drop a line whenever. Rest assured I'll always keep up with your journal :)

AE

[FoolishMind]

So quick update...If i met a genie and was granted 3 wishes they would be...wish 1: stop my parents at the point I was conceived.wish 2 and 3 therefore null and void.Alas, I am married with amazing kids, and therefore I shall play happy families for the rest of my life.

[IN NEED OF HELP]

So quick update...If i met a genie and was granted 3 wishes they would be...wish 1: stop my parents at the point I was conceived

I hope that this wish never does come true. because if it ever did, that means that none of us here have ever met you. And I feel very Honored in knowing you my friend

I am sorry that you sound so down my friend. I am sure that if you keep doing what is right in your life, that things will work out for the best. we have to fight like hell to get the good thing in life with our families, but it is a fight that is very much worth fighting for.

Just try to stay strong my friend. there is nothing in life that cant be fixed, if we fight hard enough to fix it

Your friend
Gerald

[JenMac]

Hey FM,
Well that sounds like a very down post.
I am sorry for where you are at in your life with your partner. It is not supposed to be like this, is it?
You know, I have a family member who has stayed in his marriage for a long time, years. He has been waiting for it to become better all this time. It is not better. It is in dire straits. And it is sad. You have to wonder how this happens with people who have loved each other through both good and bad. How do we get to this point?
I hope you don't let it get to this sad point FM. I hope you and your wife can come together and fight for what you really have. It is a choice after all. Once you have loved, it is a choice to continue to give it your all to keep that love in the forefront. But of course it takes 2. 2 people willing to do what is necessary to move ahead in a positive way.
Only you and your wife know if you can do this FM. Only you know if you can regain what has been damaged or lost.
I am hoping that you will work through this to happier times for all of you. Of course your family is worth fighting for, but so is the love that you and your wife have shared together. I so believe it can be regained and then some. And I am so hoping you can get there!
Keeping you and yours in my thoughts!
Jenn

[megafauna]

I have to say, from my limited experience, what's awesome about TTF is that it is so open to all and diverse: don' thave to be straight/gay/christian/muslim/satanic whatever.

FM I'm a newbie (on the PA side, but, you never know...) and just got caught up on your thread and it was super helpful - I know that probably is annoying to hear even, but its the truth.

I guess I just want to say that definitely what you're going through now, the details or whatever, its actually is related to all the PA/SO conversations I've seen here at TTF -- this is a place, it seems to me, where singles/couples talk about relationship issues that have to do with internet-related infidelities, as well as simply individual p addictions. (why does everyone use p and not the full word?)

So don't feel like, from the TTF viewpoint, you need to hold back anything of what's going on now, I think that what your wife did is close enough to P (I mean isn't it P?) that your dual roles as PA and SO could be helpful, to me at least anyways.

[Teemo]

FM, I don't know what you are feeling, or where your journey is taking you. I do know you have given so much to your recovery, and you continue to help me and many, many others here. I hope and pray that you again (and soon) find joy in your life and in your marriage.

[Dominus]

Hey FM, have you seen Shrek 4? If you havent you could probably relate!

When we meeting up then? you owe me a coffee!

[FoolishMind]

I signed up to counselling yesterday, and am starting Cognitive Behaviour therapy, it seems I am mental after all! Wooohooo!

Therapist said that alot of the way I am stems from rejection from my mother, and well basically its causing me to make a lot of wrong decisions and pushing a lot of people away. I am not even a shadow of who I used to be anymore, Used to love life, love being social, love people. Now I just want to be alone, to me that is great, but most definitely not healthy.

So there you are.

Dominus, will defo do the coffee this year, unless i find myself in a straight jacket and committed under the mental health act.