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    Thread: i need help

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      Thumbs down i need help

      it's been 6 years now that i start mb,i'm now 20 ,i thought wwhen i was younger that it gonna be just a small period of time and i will beat it easily when i reach a certain age, but it seems to be thaat this age didn't come yet, or it may not come at all.
      i wasn't addictive to p since i started,but after 3 years it became a serious problem for me
      and it increases the myth,just few weeks ago i found an anti p program k9 it's perfect it work by 80%of quality,the only defect is that it ,sometimes,dosn't launched auto.with software and it's fixed by restarting computer.
      when i thought that abig part of the myth iis solved, i foound myseelf getting back to the habit easily and without p.
      now, after that this habit has taken a large part of my college life and my friendship,i just feel real anger of myself and i can't hold it any more
      so please help me

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      Hi enough and welcome here. First things first - the only person who can really help you is - YOU! We can offer support, consolation, experience, advice, but ultimately the buck stops with yourself. If you are sufficiently determined and resolved then you can beat this, you just need to want it enough.
      The encouragement we generally suggest is to write out a mission plan, why you want to quit porn, why you think porn isnt good for you, what you want to do to replace it, what are your strengths and your weaknesses etc, much as if you were planning on starting a business.
      We are here for you my friend, take time to read through the forums and experiences of others and make this site your homepage. Welcome to your new and porn free life.
      'By Endurance We Conquer' - Ernest Shackleton

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      I think the fact that you are here, Enough, is a great sign! Dominus' advice to make a plan, seems really useful to me. I'm glad you wrote this: "This habit has taken a large part of my college life and my friendship,i just feel real anger of myself and i can't hold it any more." I'm sorry it has taken over so much of your life: but the fact that you can see that, that you aren't lying to yourself, -- that's promising. Also, the anger you feel: I think, in a way, that even the anger is a good sign: it's a sign that you know that this is a serious problem.

      Enough, good luck! Hope you follow Dominus' advice and write down some sort of mission plan, and then I also like making a micro plan for Sunday morning between 8:00 and noon, for example: 8:00-9:00 go for a jog. 9:00-9:30 get dressed 9:30-10:30 go out to a cafe for breakfast, etc., etc. It sounds a bit excessive, but it might help.

      Good luck! Dave42

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      I realize that there is a big hole in my soul.

      I used to try to fill it with porn,

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      I fill it with loving kindness,

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      hi all thanks for ur support
      thanks dave ,dominos
      but iwould like to share some informations with u ,it's exams season ,and it's rreally difficult to move those days,so sittiing on the desk fo aboout 1 month is a quite challeengee for me,iideas and p images come though my mind always,and i can't defeat iit.soooo how the hell can i overcome all this?
      beleive me guys i really want to quit!

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      Default well it's my first week

      that's my fiirst week,,beleive it or not there is a stang clarity in my mind ,no guilt feeliings ,its really great
      if all that's great feeliing are accompained with ceasing of that bad habit,so why the hell we return , don't think it's just about weakness ,we love, it we addict it cause it's delicious and i thnk we love it also cause it's difficult to quit , u see we try to run away from truth, i think that's what make us feel guilt , that's what makes us weak.


     

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