So what now?

[Yechezkel]

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[Crisodian]

These are the times having a plan in place really helps.

No matter how bad it seems, addiction is a conquerable problem. Try to remember, some of it is about chemical imbalance. The cravings and urges come from the brain seeking the chemical "rush" and from the patterns we develop with our addictive behavior.

Change the pattern of behavior. If you find you are triggered by doing certain things, then avoid doing those things. (I know that sounds too simplistic, but it's true. In this case, MB.) If you find you are struggling because the chemical urge is too strong, find a healthy replacement that gives the body and brain relief from the craving ...excercise is an excellent choice because often it releases similar chemicals to the brain which help reduce the cravings. Find something you can do to get through the urges. 10 minute walk around the block. Jumping jacks. Sit ups. Whatever works for you.

Some also find meditation invaluable. Use the time to quiet the mind and find inner peace. Use soothing music or "white noise". And just let the mind empty and focus on your inner self.

Everyone struggles with addiction differently and finds a path to recovery that is their own. But at the end of the day, YOU have control. YOU have the power and YOU can succeed.

Find peace,
~C~

[iwilldothis]

There has been numerous advice to you on different threads.

Have you been following any of it?

[Phil413]

What do you do when you feel so trapped, so discouraged, so lost?

I can't stop! I'm stuck and I feel like i'm drowning in quicksand.
I feel like I need to Mb, but I know now that it is directly linked to P

I cant Mb and remain P free.

HELP! b-(

Well, as they say, "hope is not a plan." You can't make any progress in this fight just by vowing to do better next time. If it were that easy, you'd have done better last time.

You need to have a specific plan in place, ahead of time, to get you through those times that you know are coming. And, as I've said before, it's mainly a matter of getting over that hump of the initial difficulty. It really does get easier as you go along.

What I suggest is that you think about your past slips and look for patterns. Do they happen more at a particular time of day? Do they happen more in some circumstances than in others? Then, once you've identified the danger areas, think about how you might either avoid them, or get through them. Write it down. Keep it handy.

Phil

[IN NEED OF HELP]

I posted the same in your journal
just want to make sure you see it


My friend, just want to add something

you wrote this in one of your post

My Recovery Plan


1. I will post daily with my progress, if I don't have time, I will post at the minimum, once every 2 days.

2. I will ask for help when I feel like acting out, I will pray, I will post, I will take a walk, do whatever it takes to distract myself.

3. If I slip I will immediately post the feelings and thoughts that led up to the slip, and what I could have done differently.

4. I will talk to a member of TTF at least once a week about my recovery and how things are going.


Suggestions welcome.

Y.

Are you following through on this? just a question that I feel you need to look at.
You know that I care about you a lot. but the only time that I see you post here is
1- when someone replies to your journal
2- when you slipped

Just a thought that maybe you should do what you said you was going to do If you work your recovery from your heart, there wont be this many slips
Take care my friend

[Yechezkel]

There has been numerous advice to you on different threads.

Have you been following any of it?

Wow, thats a little rude dont you think?

Why the heck would i read and reply to my friends posts and not take their advice?

What is the purpose of this post you made to me?

[IN NEED OF HELP]

Wow, thats a little rude dont you think?

Why the heck would i read and reply to my friends posts and not take their advice?

What is the purpose of this post you made to me?

I dont think that he meant it the way that you took it Y
A lot of times the way someone writes things are diff than the way we take them.
I may be wrong, but I feel he may have been just asking if you have put in your heart all of the advice that is given to you.

there has been plenty of times I got advice from someone, said I was going to do it, I didn't, and it just made me fail.


In all fairness, if you read what I put here, you can say the same thing to me
Just my thought on this. I just dont want to see friction here on this site. we go through enough with our addiction, so we dont need to be hating on each other

[Yechezkel]

I dont think that he meant it the way that you took it Y
A lot of times the way someone writes things are diff than the way we take them.
I may be wrong, but I feel he may have been just asking if you have put in your heart all of the advice that is given to you.

there has been plenty of times I got advice from someone, said I was going to do it, I didn't, and it just made me fail.


In all fairness, if you read what I put here, you can say the same thing to me
Just my thought on this. I just dont want to see friction here on this site. we go through enough with our addiction, so we dont need to be hating on each other

I really think it was a rude comment he made, and if there is friction here it is because of him.

When you write something in a mean spirited way it's pretty obvious the intention, and I am a really good judge of character, I truly believe this was a mean spirited post attacking me.

I will be reporting his post to the moderators. I do not deserve to be attacked.

[IN NEED OF HELP]

ok fair enough. All I want is to see everyone getting the help that they need

hey you may be right. so you need to do what you need to do my friend. For me, I am always careful in judging before I understand what some one writes.

that is why I asked for honest answers in what I post in the discussion form today

[Yechezkel]

ok fair enough. All I want is to see everyone getting the help that they need

hey you may be right. so you need to do what you need to do my friend. For me, I am always careful in judging before I understand what some one writes.

that is why I asked for honest answers in what I post in the discussion form today

Well I just read his journal, he said he had a massive slip, maybe he is looking for someone to pick on to make himself feel better. Well, I'm not it. I won't let anyone take their garbage out on me! I am fighting this with everything I have and what I don't need is someone targeting me because he has been slipping and wants company to his misery.

I might fall sometimes but I do the best I can and i work my arse off here to recover. When someone posts something hurtful like that it makes me want to leave and just quit. It sucks.

I have NEVER posted ANYTHING that could be questionable in intent, I think BEFORE I post, not after, and he has not done that.

I am really truly hurt.