I need help :(

[chopper]

Hey guys, I have been trying and trying to get fully recovered from a P and Mb addiction. I was first introduced when I was very young, more importantly, when no kid wanted pictures of sex in their head forever and sexual jokes and perverted stuff didn't happen all around me at school. So I talked with my parents and figured out the only way to get the pictures out of my head was to stop. So I did. Although, once I got into middle school, and people learned what "Sex" was, or what used to be the "feared word" at school, I started to search again and I ended up being addicted once again. Now I am in high school, and it is very annoying because I may think, Wow, I really like that girl then I think But because I am addicted to P I don't think I should go out with her, because she might find out. Although this may seem like a big issue to SOME of you, Girls are still not my priority. So, this does not cause me to quit. I recently got an iPod touch, and I started to look at porn with that, so my mom never leaves me alone with it. Ever. So now what I do is look at P on my computer, which has a filter on it, but I can still get some sites. (Which I am going to have my parents block TONIGHT) So, will there ever be and end to my temptations? Has anyone ever gone through a similar situation? What could I do so that I don't have temptations? I am just looking for quick tips, general or specific to YOU, that I can use and apply.

Thanks,
David

[2frustrated]

Good for you acknowledging the addiction while still young.

A tip or two to overcome p:

Follow the advice on this website (journals, recovery plan, etc.)

Redirect your thoughts and actions when temptations arise.

Don't be scared of an urge. Simply acknowledge it for what it is and let it pass.

Don't freak out when you still feel tempted even though you've been abstaining. Eventually--sometimes really long eventually--the temptations will decrease in strength and frequency.

[iwilldothis]

This is just my opinion and I could be wrong, but I think getting into a normal dating/relationship with real women can be part of the recovery. For me at least, it did help to some degree I think (although in some ways it did makes things more complicated).

You are in a way in a good position because your parents can be a part of your recovery, which means you do not have to deal with the shame and secrecy that can often fuel the addiction.

For me (and there has been a lot of set backs, partly because my issues with P have deeper roots), the following have helped:

1) Meditation - either insight or mindfullness around 20 mintues or so a day - life transforming generally for me;

2) Learning as much as I can about the addiction, learning about other people's experience of it, and learning about the neuroscience of addiction;

3) Exercise;

4) Findind reasons that I want to quit and writing them down.

Each of these help in different ways.

[chopper]

Hey, I just want to say thank you for your help and support. I will take this information to heart. Unfortunetaly, I just fell. I feel really bad, but I will try and use these methods from now on. I just hate this because every time I do good, I get a huge urge and temptation, and I just can't fight it. I feel really bad. Thanks and sorry guys. :(( =((

[iwilldothis]

That is ok mate. It is a hard habit to break and difficult addiction to overcome.

You will have to unlearn old ways. This takes time and a lot of will (as well as a good plan).

Can I recommend that you start meditating at least 20 minutes a day straight away. Look up Jack Kornfield (his Meditation for Beginners is good) or Jon Kabat-Zinn. Or even just have a search on Youtube or google about mindfullness or insight meditation.

If you practice mediation everyday, you will see some improvements within a couple of weeks, and some very noticable ones within a couple of months. It really helps not only to reduce the urges, but more importantly, build up the self control and will to not act on them when they arise.

[RichBlack]

Hey David. Nice to see ya here! Are you 18 or 19? If so then you can go ahead and use npsupport.net in addition to this site. Make use of all of the advice you can get. Unfortunately, if you are under 18 then you wont be allowed to sign up for npsupport, but you can still visit and read the boards. I recommend Recovery Nation at Pornography Addiction Love Addiction and Sexual Addiction Recovery . A fantastic website with a comprehensive self-guided workshop. Unfortunately, the coach of the website passed away recently, so I do not think there is anyone watching over the website or acting as the site "coach". But the workshop is still a huge help. You can do this!!! :D

Rich

[chopper]

Hey thanks.... (whoever was the last poster, I forgot their name... lol!) For that site, I am reading it right now and just wanted to say thank you because it is very helpful. I have realized that a lot of the stuff I though was good, can be (for now) but won't be if I really want to break free. Thanks again everyone. Please keep posting advice.

P.S. To anyone who just views this thread for advice the information on here and the rest of the forum is great for recovery. It has changed me in a big way. Unfortunately there is still work to be done.

Thank You.