oops

[2frustrated]

oops, I slipped today. What do I do now?

I'm not happy about this . . .

[Charly22]

go back to your journal.....review.....remember the following:

I want to quit for the following reasons:
1. I think it's wrong.
2. It wastes way too much time.
3. I feel it's a betrayal to my wife.
4. It contributes toward anxiety/depression.

What happened today that made you vulnerable?

[2frustrated]

Thanks.

It's hard to say why I felt vulnerable. I was, in fact, happy and in a good mood. Hmmmm . . . I suppose I gave in due to the desire to look and because there's a lot I want to do today and maybe felt overwhelmed.

Yesterday I received some really good news, and my wife and I went out to celebrate. Maybe things were "too good" and I had to bring things down a notch by messing up. I know that sounds weird, but you never know what reasons the subconscious may have.

Onward, then.

[onefunkmonk]

For me at least I tend to break down when I have strong emotions, negative or positive. Obviously the negative is quicker, but keep trying. I am new to this and this is the best advice I can give for now.

[FoolishMind]

hey 2frustrated, it is often stated that PA's only feel weak when they are feeling low and stressed or depressed. This is definatley more prevailent, but I can say from experience when your feeling high, and really good about yourself, it is this time too that you can still get tempting thoughts. Its that little voice again telling you that you have been so good today, and telling you you deserve a little treat, go on go on, egging you on all the time. Its crap it really is, and this is was it is paramount to have a clear and honest strategy on how to deal with every eventuality. for over 2 years i have had an internet filter, to stop just that. and that is what i call the conditioning phase, you need to retrain your brain, you need to phase the old you out, and bring the new you in, this cannot be done overnight, so its really about getting back to basics, and tackingling this addiction head on, and aggressivley.

Wishing you the best of clear thinking and focus.

FM

[2frustrated]

Thanks.

An internet filter sounds like a good idea. Is there one you recommend?

[FoolishMind]

Well its down to personal preference, and of course there are pros and cons to all.

I personally was using Cybersitter for the last 2 years, at $30 a year. And it had its hickups, but was small price to pay for my years of crap. I have no moved onto straight forward accountability logging, which is just $7 a year.

Many members use K9 - which is free, but both myself and my wife felt it did not filter everything we wanted and we didnt like the style of reporting.

Take some trials and see whats best for you.

Let us know what you choose.

FM

[2frustrated]

Is there an accountability-type filter that is free? Or else maybe I should find a sponsor partner?

[outofhiding]

I personally use K9 and for me, it filters just fine. Of course like every filter it can be bypassed, but it never lets a P site through without first telling you "this site is blocked because it is: pornography". If you're looking for a fence between you and P, then K9 isn't a bad option. You can also take web usage reports to send to an accountability partner if that's what your doing.

[jimmy78]

K9 works for me really well. I have to admit that, at times, I tried everything known to man to bypass it and I am thankful to say that I can't! I am sure there are better filters but for free, K9 is great.