How to handle weak moments? add ur tips

[Irule]

Below is some tips that I got off a website, its a start but I really think I need better more ideas. I would appreciate it if you posted how you deal with your own weak moments.

Thanks

4 - Watch out for weak moments. One of the trickiest parts of self discipline is handling weak moments. These are the killers. We feel fat, or insipid. We feel lost or empty. We find we miss the thing we've chosen to give up, or hate the thing we've started to do. We hate everything. This is when we give up. It's easy to be strong and carry on when we're at the top of our game. It's these low points where we have to find a way though. The best thing you can do when you feel yourself hitting a weak spot is to talk to someone who is not only on your side but can help to remind you of the good that will come out of your sticking to whatever it was you decided on. It's sort of like a sponsor for AA. Call them when you feel weak or are beginning to wonder if what you've chosen to do is so important after all. Call them when you see yourself making reasons for doing something else. Just call them. If you don't have someone you can call or talk to, get yourself up and out of the situation. If you've promised yourself you'd quite biting your nails, then get yourself up and outside. Water the lawn or dig a hole. Do some knitting. Just do something, especially if it means using your hands, because it's really hard to nibble your nails when your fingers are busy.

[artguy34]

For me, the weak moments are when I remember the rush of pleasure I used to get with P & MB. When those thoughts come into my mind, I realize that as the start of a relapse.

However, what I do to quickly get out of that state is to remember why I am making this life change. Remember all the things that my addiction has done to hurt my wife. Remember all the things I read from other SO's and what pain they have gone through and try to learn from that.

Reading about the pain that PA's put their loved ones through is a very sobering thought and one of my weapons against PA.

[gnein]

For me it seems to be when I have a lot of idle time online with nothing else to do, I have a habit of drifting toward P for "a quick look", and of course, when I hit the triggers, the inevitable happens, and I relapse. I just have to get up and turn off the computer. Other times are when I haven't looked at it for a while and the urges hit. At those times I just need to remember to get away from it, because if I'm away, the urge usually passes. It's a matter of getting outside and exercising, or putting on some music, or whatever it takes.

Other times are, astonishingly enough, when I'm tired. The best answer there is to simply go and rest (or sleep) until the tiredness is gone. For some reason, I often forget to do that.

[Irule]

Other times are, astonishingly enough, when I'm tired. The best answer there is to simply go and rest (or sleep) until the tiredness is gone. For some reason, I often forget to do that.

same here, when I get very tired or sleepy, I tell myself "I need to watch something interesting to keep me awake and finish my job" slowly ... this interesting thing changes to P. /:)

[artguy34]

For me it seems to be when I have a lot of idle time online with nothing else to do, I have a habit of drifting toward P for "a quick look", and of course, when I hit the triggers, the inevitable happens, and I relapse. I just have to get up and turn off the computer.

I know this sounds crazy, but think about it like this...

What would an alcoholic do if there is liquor in the fridge or cabinets? Sure they dont "have" to see it, but they know its there and so is the temptation.

If you have idle time on a computer, then try to remove the computer or if you need it (as most do) then install K-9 or other protection software and have an accountability partner. Someone who is willing to be responsible for the passwords and filters to help prevent you from viewing P or anything that may give you triggers? If the temptation is gone, so too may the drive to view P when you are bored or tired?

Just my opinion, but it works for me. I hope this helps?

AG

[Daniel]

One very simple rule I use is to

Get Up and Leave.

Vacate. Remove Thyself.

By physically getting away from the situation you buy yourself some time to think and be free of the immediate challenge, change your thinking.

Daniel

[newstartforher]

For me, the weak moments are when I remember the rush of pleasure I used to get with P & MB. When those thoughts come into my mind, I realize that as the start of a relapse.

However, what I do to quickly get out of that state is to remember why I am making this life change. Remember all the things that my addiction has done to hurt my wife. Remember all the things I read from other SO's and what pain they have gone through and try to learn from that.

Reading about the pain that PA's put their loved ones through is a very sobering thought and one of my weapons against PA.

Just the same here. My other main technique - think how far you've come. Imagine how you'd feel to know all those hours, days, weeks, whatever of abstinence (almost a sort of credit you've built up) have been lost, and you're back at square one. I'm prone to such bouts of depression after a lapse that for me, that's enough darkness to act as a deterrent most of the time.