Need help on this really bad..

[slammer]

My husband is a porn addict. He will not admit to it, but has agreed to therapy (with my therapist) hoping that she will change my views on this. She told us both in front of each other that she thought he had an addiction and can only be there for support for me until he admits it and seeks help. He then agreed to start seeing her next Tuesday. I am just so scared that this won't help. See, I was sexually abused as a child by my bio mom and step dad and they would watch that crap while they did things to me. So it causes panic attacks and flashbacks. He STILL isn't willing to put it aside for me while I am trying to iron out my issues. His priorities are mixed up. I don't feel as if I'm worth it to him. I feel as if he would choose porn over me if given the ultimatum, but I won't do that to him , me , or our children. He told me this morning that "he regreted marrying me cause I was a nag". That tore me in two. When he saw what he did to me, he backpeddled and said he would understand if I hated him. I feel as if he's pushing me away, and replacing me with porn. How can I be supportive to him, with the history that I have? How can I let him know that I disapprove, but still love him? How can I convince him that I will never leave him because of his addiction? I need some help with this. Please, anyone?

[esperanza]

Being a PA myself I would say the strongest way to get someone quit porn is by making the person realize he is wrong in being a PA. I decided to quit because I realized that my being a PA was afftecting my wife and my children. So I would say keep showing him how unhappy u get when he starts doing porn things you don't necessarily have to speak your body language should be doing the talking part and keep doing that. When you see that the shot may be on target then you can tighten up the screws on him and start demanding few things. I am sure he is going to give up some day.

[h-rider]

nice strategy .you could try it and i am sure if he really cares for your relationship then he would quit. try to get him to an expert as well and see if that helps.

[BoBo]

Hi, I'm BoBo. I'm married man also. Idon't think my knows I'm an addict and I would hate for her to find out because she would leave me. I'm hoping to whip this because I love her very much. I will say that his addiction is not your fault. I am a sex addict. My wife could never give me enough. That is not her fault. Your husband must realize he has a problem. I hope his theorpy helps him realize it. You must love him very much. He is a lucky man. I hope he realizes this before it's too late. Luck to you guys. BoBo