Anger

[Troubled Heart]

Well, I have made an connection today. I found out that when I get angry, that I feel the need to turn to p. When I felt this I was almost sure that I was going to give in but I came here instead to inform about the connection. I don't really understand this connection but I do realize that it has been with me for a while. It felt so familiar and now it feels weird because I am not taking my normal next step to alleviate the anger with p. I almost have a confused feeling. Since this journey has begun my nerves have escalated and I am finding it hard to find a out. I have A.D.D. really bad so not much really interests me. I feel a little lost right now. I hope I can figure this out because I don't want to give in.

~X(~X(Hands shaking!!~X(~X(
I WILL NOT GIVE IN, I can beat this!

[dave42]

Hey, Troubled Heart:

Great job connecting the anger dot to the p dot! I think you are helping me see a similar connection. Hang in there with your nerves. I do think that that will get better with time. I think for me the hardest part was the first month or two. I'm sorry about the ADD, but get yourself a ton of credit for being able to name all of the stuff you are experiencing: feeling lost, confused, hoping you can figure it all out, not wanting to give up. Hey, your resolve is great! We can learn from you at the same time we are cheering you on! Good luck!

[Robert E.]

Use that anger and hit the weights. When you are shaking go for a run and do some push ups. You will feel so much better and get into better shape too! The ladies, your body, and confidence will love that. P is just ahh man EVIL! Anytime you need a helping hand just write me and I can help. Find a workout regimine. It always helps. God bless brother. Best of luck!

[Deacon Pepper]

God Bless You,

Keep on hanging in there you are fighting the good fight and things always are hardest before a break through comes.

God Loves You And So Do I

Deacon Pepper
>:D<>:D<

[Athenon]

I found out that when I get angry, that I feel the need to turn to p.

I feel the same way. Also the confusion I know very well. I think it's the same for a lot of people here.

Good job on identifying what's happening inside of you, it's an important part of the recovery process. Also good job on holding you ground.

You can do it man !

[lightseeker]

Hey troubled heart,

I dont get angry that much, but have been depressed for a while and i think i turn to porn to make myself feel better in a similar way. Porn and masturbation lead to dopamine release in the brain, dopamine is the 'feel good' chemical, you can get this from excercise too so taking Roberts advice is a good idea, this is probably why you turn your anger to porn, as it makes you feel better, the porn hunt and the orgasm relaxes you and calms you down.

Two things:

1- Work out what it is that is causing your anger issues, this may take a long time, but i think working on this is an important step, have you ever thought about counselling for the anger itself?

2- You need to find something else to replace the porn when you get angry - socialise with friends, take up a new hobbie or sport.
When i was at the gym, and i felt really down or angry, i used to love running out my problem on the treadmill, this worked for me in getting my agression out.

Also i would say that if you are addicted to porn then this may be fuelling your anger. After a porn binge, i get frustrated easily amongst other symptons. keep an eye on the withdrawal symptons after a relapse.

[gnein]

Hi there,

I wrote a post on this in the General Discussion area ages ago, and there were some good replies. I also suffer from anger issues, and I think it's important to look for a way to use that anger positively rather than negatively. Sure, it's great to find another outlet (such as exercising), or find a way to calm yourself. I'm all for that, but it won't work 100% of the time, or at least it doesn't for me.

By using anger positively, I'm thinking about using it's motivational power to maybe solve a problem that's been bugging you. We all tend to be a little quicker to action when we're angry, and that's just a fact of life. Using P is a negative outlet, so why not try to think of some positive ways to get rid of it?