Root of the addiction?

[F-P]

Personally I may blame my society for contributing partly in my problem..
Here how is it:
My society restrict many forms of social interactions between males & females, I mean there is a sort of isolation between males & females in society even in normal activities.
I'm living an emotionally-restricted life, I can't comfortably talk to the female person I like, just because it is 'inappropriate' here!
This, mixed with difficulties in the study of my biology college, are the causes of my addiction to P. & M.
I hate both P. & M., but I use them as a way to escape the disappointing reality.
In conclusion: Depression, Stress, & Emotional Restriction

[jrock123]

blaming society for any of our problems in regards to porn addiction simply means you have not accepted personal responsibility for your actions. society and male/female interaction has always existed. then you come along and blame them? as porn addicts, we can only control ourselves. everything else is uncontrollable. we pick who we talk to, what we talk about, what we watch, etc., etc. it is the porn addict that needs to change.

jrock

[Benedict]

Fight for change in your society, or move somewhere else, or accept thats the way things are. Any of those gotta be better than escaping into porn.

[maggie]

F-Ph

I understand how your society's restrictions on male and female socializing makes you feel that Porn is an alternative way for men to interact with and learn about females.

Societies that restrict dating and other female & male interacting, seem out-dated and not effective. But, F-Ph, please understand that our society and culture, here in the United States, is very open about dating. but many men here too. have a problem with pornography.

Our society is very liberal and allows our tv shows, commercials and movies to be very sexualized. Everywhere you look around here, even the grocery store magazine racks, you are able to see sexually provocative images.

Many of the younger females in the US dress very provocatively and obviously send a very sexual message out to the men who are looking at them.

So, our cultures are very different, but both may contribute to pushing men into viewing pornography. I guess that is why Jockrock is suggesting that you just have to make your own decisions and take control of your feelings and urges, regardless of how your societal restrictions affect you.

[everlight]

F-P:
Sorry to hear about your problems. I don't know much about Indian society. People of course get married and have children, how do poeple go about it in India? Perhaps you could try another route.

I see no problem with masturbation. The problem is letting vile p images into your mind. Unfortunately you seem to have linked the two.

I don't see any point in blaming PAs, the fact that P is so accessible and virtually everywhere on the internet makes it hard for most people to avoid it and even harder to resist the temptation.

And about masturbation, if there are social or religious taboos in your society I would never encourage you to break them or feel guilty, so if that's the case than disregard my message.

[yorkie_owner_85]

Actually, I think I only blame myself and loneliness for my addiction, not society itself. I think we shouldn't be ashamed of our natural sex lives that isn't affected by p (i.e. our sexualtity and gender identification, some of our natural wants, etc.) I'm not for all the religious attitude that all sex outside of marriage or homosexuality is wrong.

[everlight]

I agree completely. That's a good message.

Actually, I think I only blame myself and loneliness for my addiction, not society itself. I think we shouldn't be ashamed of our natural sex lives that isn't affected by p (i.e. our sexualtity and gender identification, some of our natural wants, etc.) I'm not for all the religious attitude that all sex outside of marriage or homosexuality is wrong.

[mell]

I beleive my addiction started as a result of any talk of anything sexual was taboo. Therefore, as an adolescent, it was even more fascinating to me than it was to others.


Jessica wrote: "The root of all addiction is pain"

I believe this whole heartedly. My P is a release. I know its wrong, I know what it leads to, yet I still slip and fall into it over and over again. The "reward" outweighs the consequenses, even though that reward is never enough. Once I get into P, it just builds and worsens. It started with mags, then phone lines, and now with the internet, the world is at my fingertips.

My pain is a lifelong issue of having difficulty with stress. Instead of dealing with it as it happens, I bury things. The pain builds to a point where I need a release and I always go to P.

My personal solution is very simple - deal with the stress at hand, even if it means getting into an argument. That being said, it is so hard. I can only hope that I continue to seek support and not become complacent ever again.