have a problem

[iblivin4givinru]

ok so here it is, me and my gf are doing great, almost 3 months, but the thing is, i already had sex and she has not, and where trying to keep it that way, for her not to have sex untill me and her are married, but every time i turn around im extremely horny and so is she and she allows me to do stuff to her, but everytime something happens my friend finds out, and that is because she told him because she is afraid i will do something to her, now i mean not to do it, but because of my sex addiction it is like a huge drug for me and i cant stop

any advice?

[FoolishMind]

Hello Iblivin4givinru, hope your well.

If Im understanding your dilemma correctly that being:

You both agree on no sx before marriage, but she is worried about getting hurt, so she has asked her/your friend to keep her up to speed. So if you mess up, her friend will tell her.

Thats what I understood anyway, so Based on that, I could give you some real sensible advice like " Erm... Dont mess up, dont cheat, and respect her and your relationship"

However, im sure your already aware of that.

So your asking for advice because you probably have some battle going on in your head telling yourself, perhaps once or twice should be ok, and then once your married, you wont need to again as you can have sx with your gf all the time. If that is the case, (as in what your thinking) that is not good thoughts, and definatley will lead to destruction.

My best advice apart from the obvious as stated above, is that for this situation the best advice you will receive if from yourself but on a completley transparent level.

What I mean is, Break it down, and be totally honest with yourself. And you will come to you answer example...

1) Do I love her (yes / no)
2) If NO, finish it. If YES then got to (3)
3) Do I share her feelings about sx before marriage (yes / No)
4) If NO, then talk to her if YES then go to (5)
5) Are you clear on a timescale before you will be married...

etc etc

Break things down, take a step back, anaylse your HONEST answers and you should be able to work things out. As your post title suggests, you have a problem, but I assure you there are many solutions, and problems will always seem worse if you dont detach yourself from it and look at it from a problem solving angle.

Wish you a mind of clarity and focus.

FM