Accepting The Truth

PressingOn · **Accepting The Truth -** 12-14-2007, 07:27 PM

It took me a long time to realize that I had a porn problem. I feel as if I have been dealing with this issue every since my early teens and I would defeat it, and then it will creap up again, then I will defeat it again and so on. I had a great time of success after I got married and my wife caught me looking at porn... this was a hard and humiliating experience but it gave me a reason to really want to stop. So months went by and I did pretty good. But I have been noticing the gap closing. Before I might go a month or two between episodes but now its getting closer to a weekly event. I finally realized that I need support and thats why I am here. I have felt that I couldn't really talk to anyone becasue of my own shame about the issue so I am glad that I hopefully now have a place to grow and be kept accountable. I am so ready to beat this thing........

Light · 12-15-2007, 08:11 PM

Welcome to the board PressingOn! Your story sounds a lot like mine. I'm not married, but I have battled porn use in much the same way you described. In the past, when things have been going well, I tend to forget that I am susceptible to this problem, and it pops up and hits me out of the blue. If I am not on top of things, then I give in to the temptation and the cycle starts all over again. I use it once..then more frequently until it is a serious problem.

But posting to boards like this has given me a positive outlet to vent my frustrations and get support, and I find that when I am tempted I come here and post and before you know it the temptation passes. After reading some of the stories posted here, I am reassured that using porn is not an acceptable way for me to go on living and is a healthy does of reality compared to the messages that popular culture send our way daily. Thanks for sharing your story and good luck, please let me know how things go for you!

Light

021hallows · 12-15-2007, 09:35 PM

Hi Pressingon,
Welcome and what light said is correct, the best part about being here is that you don't have to pretend. You should know that we all have suffered at some point in our lifes.
I have seen that discussing my problems here has helped me more than anything else, I am sure you will have the same feeling in a matter of time

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Peace

Chris · **Help Help -** 01-12-2008, 07:10 AM

Hi and i am in trouble with porn
i have a problem that is ruining my life and i dont know what to do i mean ive tried it all including 12step programs and nothing seems to be working at all. I dont feel shame or guilt but to me this type of entertainment is unnatureal (no offense) so please any suggestions. Please anyone!!!

FoolishMind · 01-12-2008, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Chris

Hi and i am in trouble with
i have a problem that is ruining my life and i dont know what to do i mean ive tried it all including 12step programs and nothing seems to be working at all. I dont feel shame or guilt but to me this type of entertainment is unnatureal (no offense) so please any suggestions. Please anyone!!!

Hi Chris, welcome to the site, you are not alone. I good place to start is the advice for newbies thread posted by 'Light' Advice for Newbies...

You will see through other posts, most agree that the first step is being honest with yourself and any loved one that is directly affected by the PA. That is the biggest step. From there it understanding your weak areas, what are your triggers etc.

Why dont you start a Journal on this site,and explain your thoughts on yoru story so far, other members will take the time to read, and you will always have someone here to support and advise you.

021hallows · 01-12-2008, 08:13 PM

Hi Chris,
Please do understand that all the programs that are designed to help someone affected can be helpful only if the person puts in some honest efforts from his end as well. I would like to echo the thoughts of Foolishmind

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first step is being honest with yourself and any loved one that is directly affected by the PA. That is the biggest step. From there it understanding your weak areas, what are your triggers etc.

Things will change if you truly put in some efforts but this is definitely not going to be a piece of cake but make sure that you are honest to yourself when it comes to what it requires from you.

Peace