Would Like to Talk to Other Gay Men

[yorkie_owner_85]

I'm new here and I have never been in a relationship. Because of that my guardian keeps asking me how do I know I'm gay if I never did anything. I think you can relate with me when I say I just know, right?

[Boy with a Problem]

I'm new here and I have never been in a relationship. Because of that my guardian keeps asking me how do I know I'm gay if I never did anything. I think you can relate with me when I say I just know, right?

Looks at chick, than looks at guy.

Yeah. I know why I'm gay. LOL!

[popthehood]

Hi dave, im popthehood, you know maybe i have mixed feelings about my being gay or bi but i just let God control those feelings. ive been praying to him like forever and even praying to him to help me always pray to him and trust him. im turning 25 early next year. if i still have these feelings, i will definitely fully accept me, a gay being, mostly attracted to men, however, i will not accept and continue to live with my addiction. I WILL FIGHT this to the grave. God help me, i will. Cheers to you and Godbless.

[popthehood]

no way! there are many straight who has lived a ****ed up life, as many as gays or bi. that is totally unacceptable. we all have crosses in life! You can be straight and live with a disease, with a death of a loved one, with blindness. Just be happy for who u are and never say that. even if i feel ****ed up too, i know WE ALL HAVE EQUAL PAINS AND JOY!

[Scooter]

Hiya all, just wondered how everyone in here is doing? I am still with the same guy I was with about a year ago when I was here. Our relationship is hard because he won't call me his boyfriend but his friend friend, though we sleep together regularly. He is the reason I am back here again today as he still has concerns about my P use. Anyway just thought I'd check in. Say hi :)

[dave42]

Hey Scooter: Good to hear from you! I haven't checked this thread in forever! Great to hear from Popthehood, YorkieOwner and BoyWithAProblem, too! Hi everyone: thanks for your comments. I gotta say: I was doing GREAT for 8 months about a year ago, then, ever since November I've been falling off the wagon, getting back on, falling off, etc, etc, etc. Well, I'm back on the wagon as of this moment! Hoping to make this time stick.

Scooter: I'm concerned about your p use too, and my p use! But I'm also concerned about this sentence: "I am still with the same guy I was with about a year ago when I was here. Our relationship is hard because he won't call me his boyfriend but his friend friend, though we sleep together regularly." That must be very difficult. Is the problem that he won't accept his being gay, or that he won't accept being in a relationship? In either case, hang in there! This is tough, very tough. Sigh...Okay, Scooter, hope you know that we are all cheering for you, buddy!!!

[dave42]

Hello Everyone:

I just received a very thoughtful message from a guest, but I can't seem to figure out how to respond -- I think the guest might come here again, so I'll respond here.

First, thanks for your message! Hope you become a member so that we can support you further. Second, I think you helped me to understand a piece of the puzzle that I hadn't seen -- the part about using p and m to deal with stress of being gay as a teen. I had always understood that being a gay teenager is stressful, and I'd always understood that p is a way to cope with stress, but --and it sounds funny to overlook such an obvious link--until you mentioned that you used p to deal with the specific stress of being a gay teen, of hating oneself to some extent, I hadn't put these two things together.

Anyway, thanks! Your message was an example of how we help each other by telling own stories -- it's helpful to get it off your chest, but it's helpful for others (like me!) to hear your story so that I can uncover things that really ought to be obvious.

All the best,

Dave