Objectifying men?

[Scooter]

So I've been watching a bit of straight porn lately... ha, yeah.. go figure. I begin to see what people say about women being degraded in porn etc...

My question is... why don't I see that, or feel that way about gay porn? I mean physically the content is very much same. Theres no different in the acts that are occuring.

I guess my theory is that it seems wrong to degrade woman because with them its pretty obvious they're not into it, and gay guys usually are?

Am I being pretty naive? I'd be interested to hear other thoughts on this matter.

[dave42]

I guess I've debated this same issue a lot (with myself!), Scooter. I no longer focus on this question, because I realize that the most important issue (for me) is that looking at p is a problem for me, an addiction. So whether it objectifies women or men, whether it's fantasy or whatever, it's a problem for me as a viewer. I need it, crave it, and I am helpless (or at least almost helpless) when I try not to look. Analogy: if drinking is healthy for the heart or unhealthy for the heart, for my alcoholic friend, the issue doesn't matter much -- he needs to take steps to never drink even a drop of it. Hmmm...I'm not sure if my analogy is useful. I hope that at least it's not obnoxious! Do I sound preachy?! Hope not. I think I'll go for a jog right about now!

Scooter, it's great (as always) to hear from you! Thanks! Dave