Work on Recovery Daily

[Devastated2]

Hi All

Is coming to TTF and posting your way of doing something everyday to help you in recovery? I know how important it is to work at this and I can't begin to say how proud I am of my own husband and the difficult work he continues to do. He attends a weekly SA meeting but I don't think there is anything he consistently does everyday that is recovery related. I'm not saying that is right or wrong. As an SO, I can't decide that. But I was just curious if you think doing something everyday is necessary or does one need to proceed in a way that makes them comfortable in recovery.
Thanks in advance for any replies

[likeafish34]

Devastated2,

It's good to see that you're supporting your husband and that you're proud of him. I bet that is the biggest help to him.

Regarding daily posting on TTF, I can only speak for myself but best recovery days, are those days when I do nothing about my recovery. Days when I'm too busy and happy getting on with my life in the real world. If I could always avoid being on my own and being on the Internet, I wouldn't be an addict.

Having said that, I get a lot out of posting on TTF. I find it particularly useful when I get the urge to use P. Then I access TTF, post something about how I feel and by the time I've done that, the urge has normally subsided.

I wish you and your SO success on this tough journey.

Simon

[mell]

I need to work on my recovery daily.

IMO recovery equals life changes that can only take place through daily work. After a while, the daily recovery work gets easier and becomes the norm instead of a chore. I have made some real good friends through my SAA community and find it enjoyable to be in contact with them.

TTF plays a big part in my recovery. When I'm not around for a while, I feel something is missing.

[nifty]

I'm not heaps active on this forum, so I can't really comment whether this site has been helpful.

But as far as doing something everyday... I sort of do. I've tried to form healthy habits. But I try to make those healthy habits as being part of the life I want to live, not just as "I'm not going to look at p***". As in, I think if we get up every morning and doing things just so we're not looking at p*** then p*** is still the focus. Days when I do the right things simply because I want to do the right things I think are the days when I'm doing the best.

Hope that helps!

[Devastated2]

Thanks for your reply Simon. Busy is good & I completely get that. I find when I am very busy, I work a lot less abouty husband's PA.Thank you for your honesty!

[Devastated2]

Hi MellI love what you said about making life changes that become your new norm. That really is a necessity. I also agree what a lifesaver TTF is.Best of Luck!

I need to work on my recovery daily. IMO recovery equals life changes that can only take place through daily work. After a while, the daily recovery work gets easier and becomes the norm instead of a chore. I have made some real good friends through my SAA community and find it enjoyable to be in contact with them.TTF plays a big part in my recovery. When I'm not around for a while, I feel something is missing.

QUOTE=mell;76233]I need to work on my recovery daily. IMO recovery equals life changes that can only take place through daily work. After a while, the daily recovery work gets easier and becomes the norm instead of a chore. I have made some real good friends through my SAA community and find it enjoyable to be in contact with them.TTF plays a big part in my recovery. When I'm not around for a while, I feel something is missing.[/QUOTE]

[Devastated2]

Nifty it does help....thank you! Your healthy habits will go a long way is helping your recovery. Doing the right things for the sake of doing themis something my husband says often. Thanks for your reply!

I'm not heaps active on this forum, so I can't really comment whether this site has been helpful.But as far as doing something everyday... I sort of do. I've tried to form healthy habits. But I try to make those healthy habits as being part of the life I want to live, not just as "I'm not going to look at p***". As in, I think if we get up every morning and doing things just so we're not looking at p*** then p*** is still the focus. Days when I do the right things simply because I want to do the right things I think are the days when I'm doing the best.Hope that helps!

[truetome]

I think the term comfortable in recovery is a place I would love to be. I am reflecting to see if there is something recovery related that I consistently do every day. I can relate to all the posts in one way or another. For the days that are busy with positive things like family and being productive, those are the easy days because your addiction is not a concern or a focus. The challenge for me is "Am I doing enoug in my recovery overall"? I think as I progress and continue to learn more about myself I will be able to guage what needs to be focused on daily or on an as needed basis however as I have been posting on this site pretty much daily for the past week I have to say it keeps my focus on recovery more in the forefront of my day. For where I am now, I think I am benefitting from it. And I have to say your support for your husband has made this difficult road so much more manageable and I am extremely grateful for your love and support!!
I hope this helps.

[stillinlove]

Hello everyone. I'm new here.
I enjoy doing somethng everyday for my recovery. I check this site in the AM and then in the evening.
Since I am on both sides, my husband and I enjoy the couples site and discuss what has been written in posts and in articles.
I have found over the years for myself, and from having sponsored many people, that if a day is skipped, then another day another excuse/reason arises and that day is skipped, then subtly everything becomes more important then maintaining recovery.We did P and/or MB everyday, more then once a day for hours at a time, and as someone married to a recovering P, I need to practice keeping the focus on myself, reminders for what I need to do to alleviate any fears that arise. That is my 'co' trying to rear it ugly horns. When he was active I spent alot of time trying to maintain my sanity, I mostly felt sad and wanted to hear what others were doing to find happiness in their lives.

[Devastated2]

Well! You have earned the love & support I have for you. In retrospect, I suppose anyone remaining free from P & MB is actively working on recovery on a daily basis. For you, you now have a journal here, which I think has done wonders for you & helps others as well.

I think the term comfortable in recovery is a place I would love to be. I am reflecting to see if there is something recovery related that I consistently do every day. I can relate to all the posts in one way or another. For the days that are busy with positive things like family and being productive, those are the easy days because your addiction is not a concern or a focus. The challenge for me is "Am I doing enoug in my recovery overall"? I think as I progress and continue to learn more about myself I will be able to guage what needs to be focused on daily or on an as needed basis however as I have been posting on this site pretty much daily for the past week I have to say it keeps my focus on recovery more in the forefront of my day. For where I am now, I think I am benefitting from it. And I have to say your support for your husband has made this difficult road so much more manageable and I am extremely grateful for your love and support!!I hope this helps.