TTF - how did you feel when your SO showed you this site?

[champagnesuppanova]

OK, I am thinking of showing this site to my BF. He has stated to me about 7-8 weeks ago that he is a PA. I found this site and have been journalling. I am now wondering whether it is time to tell him about this place and see what happens. So my question to the PAs is that if your SO introduced you to this site, how did you feel about it?

[Mac]

Hi! Champagne
I posted in your journal a while ago and have been reading some of your posts for the last while. It seems that you are getting some good support which is what being here is all about for both sides
My SO introduced me to this site and I will say it was a great support for me right from the start. At first I just read a lot of the PA journals, but as I got a little more comfortable I started to post as well.
I think the feeling we experience coming here are a lot the same for PA's and SO's.
We both come here a little apprehensive about what we are getting into, but once here, we start to find out we are no so alone.
I am sure when you started here you got that feeling, well it was definately the same for me and I assume other PA's as well.
It may take a bit for your H to get into the mix here, but once he does you will find that this is a great place for the 2 of you to share your recovery.
Long story short, I am very grateful my SO guided me here. It has been a fabulous experience of growth and recovery for me.

I hope you do bring your H here.
Good luck my friend

Mac

[waterlily327]

For me, my PA SO showed me the site! I know it’s a bit different, but I still wanted to share my first impressions of TTF. Both of us took our time reading through as guests for about 10 days to make sure the site would work for us, him spending time in the Recovery journals, and me spending my time in the SO’s journals. We both found things that hit home. I was really skeptical at first but testing the waters of TTF as a guest helped me realize this was a wonderful, supportive community that had a lot to offer. We decided to join the day before our anniversary and, though it took some more time for me to feel entirely comfortable, people here were great and I think joining is one of the best choices I have ever made.

Like I said, I know it’s a bit different as I am an SO, but I suggest you have him read through some things as a guest first to make sure that the site is something that will work for him. By the way, I have found that being here with my BF has helped both of us a lot. I hope that your partner does join!!! Hope that helps a little!

[PER50NA]

hmm I found this site myself through a google search I think I was surprised more then anything I didnt know a place like this existed

[stillandagain]

my PA found this site
I was surprised, and so thankful

[HopefulsRock]

Champagne... I was reluctant to want to talk about it or deal with it but My Hopeful was persistent! I wasn't reluctant to quit using and acting out... I was done with that immediately after she confronted me but didn't realize that I was still in denial about a lot of things that are wrapped around this rotten addictive garbage! She would keep telling me things about TTF and sent me some good posts but it was a member here called cityfool who gave her a bigger push by saying, "any SO who's here without there PA is starting out behind the 8-ball" she relayed that to me when we were camping on our Labor Day weekend I signed up as soon as we got home because I realized how much I needed her in this recovery and she now needed me as well... it's then that the healing began for her!

I hope your PA is looking to quit his addiction and become a better man Champagne and by all means bring him aboard here at TTF! ...we could always use another paddler!

[FoolishMind]

My SO, advised me of TTF via her email to me virtually threatening divorce. While I was hugely reluctant to check the site out, I did, and the weight that was lifted from my shoulders was immense to know that I was not the only one, and that allowed me to open up, and truly acknowledge I had a problem. Ive said it before and I will never cease to say it again, TTF opened my eyes to my addiction and my problems. With that TTF Gave me the tools and the correct attitude to sort myself out, and save my marriage. For that reason alone, I remain on this site and will remain ever loyal to it.

Till death do use part!
FM