Rewarding Good Behavior

[Loving_FGL]

What are some rewards that can be given for going a predetermined period of time without a slip-up? Preferably ones that don't cost lots of money.

[2frustrated]

That is a really cool question--one I've never heard before. And I'm sure your SO will really appreciate it and feel proud when you reward him. So sweet! Hmmm. . . how about cook a romantic dinner? Or wash his car (you can use the "clean" metaphor). Or buy/download a song for him that means a lot to both of you or symbolizes his progress.

[mell]

The real reward is internal. Becoming an open, honest person, and learning to deal with the stresses / defects in character, that lead us to acting out. I would be careful of "worshipping a number", as in days of sobriety. I know what my 'reward' would have been a few months ago.

If there is anything, it should be small, like the tokens given in 12 step groups. I do like the clean reference from 2F.

[rosie]

Hmmmm!!! I think any rewards based system is sort of diverting from the goal of recovery, but then, I understand the need for positive reinforcement, so this is a tough one.

Oops just realised I am posting in the PA forum again o:-)

Anyhow. Here is my 2c.

Appreciation. Show your partner that you are proud of them in subtle ways. Extra hugs. Extra attention. Extra care, doing little things that make them feel loved and valued. I cannot think of a greater reward :)