Supporting your SO

[JenMac]

A question to the PAs here, particularly those who feel they are on a path to recovery with their SOs.

What have you done or what are you doing to reconnect with your wife/SO? What steps are you taking to support her and to foster your relationship?

This question was prompted by me realizing how much my H's desire and willingness to do so much for me, to care for me, nurture me, support me, has assisted me in my path to recovery.

I believe by sharing what it it that you feel has helped you will also help others. SOs feel free to chime in on things that you feel your Hs have done that have helped you as well!

Try to be as specific as you can ie. Patience - How did you show this patience?

Thanks guys, looking forward to your responses!

Jenn

[FoolishMind]

Hey Jenn, I can only assume this has not been responded to as it quite tough to be so specific on this. I read this a few times, and was thinking how to answer this clearly, and honestly the clearest I explain this is ...

There is that stereotype and usual bullet point list of what the "perfect man" is. This of course will encompass many characterstics such as charisma, care, sincerity, trust, passion etc.

Did I focus on specific areas - not really. Naturally through longer periods of absitinence my character changed, and I romanced my wife again, and we fell back into love and it is by me addressing MY PROBLEM, that supported my wife as we began to connect on a whole new level never experienced before quite simple because I was a different person.

Dont know if that makes sense, but thats my best stab at it.

FM

[JenMac]

Hey FM!
Awe but in fact this has been answered as I reposted this in the recovering from addiction forum when this kept getting buried!
Thanks for your response! It makes perfect sense to me!!
Jenn