Porn Images

[Committedusa]

This question is for any husband that have viewed porn. I need and appreciate a honest answer. After watching porn, and having sex with your wife afterwards, do you have images of the women in the porn while having sex with your wife?

[Daniel]

Committedusa,

Due to my Christian convictions and moral obligations to live a pure & holy life (as much as humanly possible), I never imagined my SO as anyone else; it simply could not be done as I was usually awash in guilt after viewing P. Projecting some generic P-starlet onto The Wife was un-thinkable.

On the philosophical side of this question:

There is potentially a wide range of honest answers to this question, bracketed by "never" and "always". Depending on the PAs moral positions and beliefs about how life should be lived, personal convictions, etc., there will be variations along the continuum.

And while the PA may not imagine his SO as a P star during their conjugal time, it is likely that certain things seen in the P may be "tried out" with the SO.

Daniel

[infoloop]

I don't think I have ever envisioned my girlfriend as anyone else. There is alot more to the sex experience than to the p. Sex stimulates all the senses, touch, smell, p really is just 1. That is just my 2 cents. The real thing (a wonderful man or woman) can never be replaced by something fake.

[Life-lies-trust]

This depends on the addict and their own outlook. My H has admitted to be fantasizing about others and USING me as an outlet. This is why some to the cr@p is so hard to deal with and why I am still angry.

[WifeOfNewLifeMan]

same here... same as LLT.

[debv]

My H denies having thought about P while with me, but he did "try out" things he saw, as Daniel said, which to me indicates he had to have been thinking about P while he was with me or he wouldn't have thought of what to do. Unless he choreographed it all earlier, which I'm sure didn't happen. So while I do tend to believe he didn't imagine me as any particular P star (he said he saw so many of them he can't even say if he saw one more than once, he didn't seek out particular women) I also believe he brought it into our bed, which is more than bad enough.

[debv]

I don't think I have ever envisioned my girlfriend as anyone else. There is alot more to the sex experience than to the p. Sex stimulates all the senses, touch, smell, p really is just 1. That is just my 2 cents. The real thing (a wonderful man or woman) can never be replaced by something fake.

Unfortunately the real thing can and is replaced by something fake as part of the addiction. My H started to have ED issues while with me, like many other PAs with their SOs. Real flesh and blood me, with my real 40-something, unaltered body, wasn't as stimulating as the P was.

[MyNameIsMatt]

I can honestly say I've never successfully (i'll get to that) imagined my wife as someone else during sex, nor have I ever successfully imagined scenes from movies during sex.

There has been a few times, after a masturbation binge, the wife wanted to have sex and I was unable to get or keep an erection, and in an effort to change that I'd try to imagine something to fix that.

It never worked for me, and I'm pretty sure it just made it worse each time. I'd either lose what erection I had completely, or it would kill the mood for me, effectively causing me to lose my erection.