I'm confused!

[still learning]

I thought that my "friend" was looking at P and MB in search of that great "high" he gets from actual intercourse. I asked him about it and it was the opposite. The "high" he gets from MB while looking at P is better than actual intercourse. Talk about a slap in the face:((. What do you say when someone tells you that? I am truly in love with this man and it really hurt me when he said that.

[hopefulwife]

I think its the same for my hubby. He repetitivly chose porn over sex. It was and is very hurtful.

Im a SO but I will tell you my view.

Just remember that it is all about him. It is a selfish addiction and has nothing to do with you. This act has very little to do with sex. Its all about the high, the risk, and the shame. Its NOT a "we" problem, its his problem.

It took me a while not to be so hurt and ashamed that he would rather MB then be with me, but its not the same thing.
I try to think of it as getting high. They get a high out of it so its not that different. Getting high and having sex are not the same thing so he wasnt chosing it over sex, he was just chosing it.

Now when my hubby slips I am disapointed but not ashamed. His actions have no reflection on me.

The fact that he uses P and MB doesnt mean you arent beautiful or good in the bedroom.It has nothing to do with you at all. Its all to do with him, but that doesnt mean you cant help and support him.

I wish you the Very best. I know how much this hurts so I told you the thing I heard that helped me. Welcome:) and hugs.>:D<

[still learning]

Thanks sooooooooooooooo much for your reply. I have to remember that he has had this problem since he was 15. Only a few select people know about his PA and I am honored to be one of those people. It's frustrating to know that I cannot help him through this; only give my support.