Am I a trigger?

[Brooke_M]

I've asked my H (who is a PA) this before... Am I a trigger? When he sees me does it make him want to watch P? Does anything we do when we're intimate cause him to want to watch P? And how likely is it that he's thinking about those women when he's with me? What are the triggers anyway? He's told me boredom and TV, that's about it. Just a few things I was hoping someone could help me with.

[Life-lies-trust]

I've asked my H (who is a PA) this before... Am I a trigger? When he sees me does it make him want to watch P? Does anything we do when we're intimate cause him to want to watch P? And how likely is it that he's thinking about those women when he's with me? What are the triggers anyway? He's told me boredom and TV, that's about it. Just a few things I was hoping someone could help me with.

Brook_M,
My PA who is also on this site as Desert Ghost also at first said that this trigger was not me. He was busted at work (By me) on Dec, 17, 2009. We have been working on this with a counselor and he now admits that when he added me to the mix at times I was the trigger but not the primary one. Boredom and his mother are his two biggest triggers. We worked out a plan that I also approved as to what he would do when he felt the urges to relapse. So far it is working.