supporting my bf

[SoinLove]

I just found out a few days ago that my bf had been lying to me about looking at p, and that he had looked at it a few times, and even mb once. It hurt me very badly of course, and the pain is still so fresh. He's been trying to change, and I know that he's addicted and it's a problem he has. I do believe that he's been trying to stop, and I do believe that he can and will get through this.
Yesterday he told me that he doesn't think I believe he really has an addiction, and that he really needs my support in this. My question is, how exactly do I do this? I'm hurting so bad, and I do have some angry feelings toward him that I'm trying to fight. I feel like part of my love has been killed (this is the first time this has happened in our relationship). I'm just wondering how I should support him, and how I can make him believe I know it's an addiction. I love him so much, and I want to help him through this! Any advice would be greatly appreciated! What makes you guys feel loved and supported throught this? Thanks!

[breakforever]

I know this is an older post and you probably have the answers or are not interested. It was a good question though and thought I'd keep the thread going.

Reassure him that his addiction is respected by you and that you will help. You can help him make good choices, listen if it is necessary. Put a filter on your computers together. Throw out any physical form p. Explain what you expect and be forgiving if there is a misstep. Understand that it is a process and that he cannot be cured overnight.

I know it's hard but try to refrain from using pa as a weapon in other arguments not related. I'm not asking you to ignore it, but he also doesn't want it to be a shadow over his entire existence.

I know this is a lot to ask, but it is my idea of someone supportive of recovery. Any other ideas?