please help: computer lies?????

[Vonny]

You have to protect your security and your family and anyone in your contacts and protect the life of your PC ... All porn sites are full of all these dangers thru their malaware , email , chat , cams , trogan central etc .... Putting you thru hell as well as security risking your life , to be hacked is a very cruel experence... Everyone must be aware of the risks .

My XP went flying over the veranda .. memory saved by me .. Bought 2 Vista 64bits and have Norton 360 , plus norton parental on both ,seperated kids PC from adults PC.... so far its ok .... My partner was IT assisted and over time I have met every trogan , removed many {and I am blonde so I hope that gives you hope }. cookies and log on anonymous known .. And system control sets ... So many nastys so many ..... but again help is there and tools to fight with for your PC ..


These steps were some I had to take to stop the Highway of hell ..Travelling Thru our PC ..First I was told by Telstra to change my phone number ... thus a new moden configured in new number ....{ story there would turn IT heads around the bend } Change all passwords and don't keep them in your memory ... tell the banks and all email friends and be selective who you pass email on too .. You must give each user a setting ... all mine are teenager + with a long list of exceptions where they can't go . All emails are also stopped .... only allowing the one email service the family uses .. All chat stopped .... but i could chat here if I want ...
Forget free security software ...... your PC will be so sick already from free P...ware ... I didn't have the money either .... saved and that crushing hovering feeling is now gone ...... If there can't be self control .... its the only way ....
I had to destroy all that was connected to PC , all kids games gone as some would reboot the log on anonymous ..... that was nasty .. Listening to a 7 year old screaming because Sponge Bob was not happy and there were strange ladies looking at her ...... She still talks about the people in the PC .....
Learn and listen to your PC from inside out ..... learn about every programe you have , microsoft have great lessons .. Its just not just for stopping of porn ... We all have to be responsible when useing PC and the rules change daily ...
Know your viruses , trogans and malaware .... Don't trust free .... 3 leading security companys that are free were over taken on my PC and told me daily I had no problems .... They just forgot about the 156 thousand sites my PA partner had up and running to view ... Trogan Zlob took care of things on my zoombie PC ... There are currently millions of PC's world wide that are zoombies and you woudn't know , because your hyjacked security is telling all is fine .. So all your info is there for whoever wishes to hack and take , photos , bank details , your private life .....
Most important 1st thing to do get PC cleaned by IT person and start all clean all files gone be selective what you keep .... I never kept one file ... an IT repair person will set things up for u .... beg .. I did ... then he told me to learn and I have
, understand your URL's , what files are which and how they work ...a lot of reading , but you will be more confident after or gain help after you have purchased security and they will assist .. Start by learning how to do a tune up .. sit in front of PC when the security scan is going ... after a few times you will know what is new .... what programes you have and what ills your PC ..
Its a computer and if a 12 year old can set up 6 backdoors and false google in a protected school PC area , think what years of porn and their buddy trogans can do to your PC .. Master it don't be a victim ...
You can stop porn ... you just how to be on top of the work arounds .... Read PC mags , news items etc keep up .. Goggle virus and and stroll for a while ...
If this blonde from OZ can do it .... anyone can . Cheers Vonny ..

[Vonny]

Hi days have passed since i posted , I wasn't playing mind games I simply wanted peace through my house with some control on PC . i thought with our family's love we could over come computer lies ...... no we can't there is always a work around for any possible stop to porn ... i was a dumb person in my first post here .. If they want their feed they will hunt for it . I don't think now one can ever stop it ... ever

He has been It assisted again and found new work arounds to get past all security and other accountabilty programes ..

He has been doing remote computer access to msg and download files and connect with other PC's .

Its all in the logs everytime , every event but as usual he denies it . More things in my PC to control it .. This is so sick ... so sick . I am broken beyond repair now .. I can't pick myself up anymore .. The darkness can have him .. Whats left isn't worth picking up anymore .
I'm done .... he's done . Family is done ..

[brulant]

Originally Posted by Vonny

I'm done .... he's done . Family is done ..

Just sounds like you're done with the sickness. That sounds like your far from done if you change the perspective. Sounds like your ready for healthy and healing, eh?!

We're not responsible to fix everything.


If we take on all the work we're just sacrificing ourselves in the process.

To me it sounds like your giving your family a chance by eliminating the sickness.... its a big step, but it will allow happiness and healing that can't happen if a major force isn't meeting the challenge. I know it feels helpless and hopeless now, but I promise you that things get better after eliminating and going through the stages to grieve those eliminations, betrayals and feeling like you failed.

You tried and that is NOT failure!!
You gave it your all and that is wonderful.

Okay, so it didn't work and "he" wasn't ready, willing or able.
Now its time to look out for you and your family.

I will never see eliminating sickness from your family as a failure and I hope you learn to see that too! Far too many women have sacrificed themselves to this cultural myth and lost much in the process. Now we live in an age where we no longer have to suffer in silence but we can take back control, happiness and a chance for a good life.

be well and don't forget to forgive yourself
WE know you did all you could and then some
it doesn't always work but the fact that we tried is far more admirable than someone who doesn't try and doesn't take responsibility.

You have a chance for a future and you have the chance to give the rest of your family a future without all the chaos and drama too.

Don't give up hope just because your done with "him" because you still have everyone else in your family.

Give them some hope.... and some for you too!
much love and a whole bunch of support!

We care about ya'!
brulant

[Hopelesslydevoted]

I am in a very similar situation, my boyfirend and I had tackled or so i thought his issues with P last january. Earlier this week I found out the only thing that had changed was his ability to lie and to hide.I felt so betrayed, i could never flat out lie to him I would feel terrible. when random things would pop up when attatching documents I would ask what are these files? i dont get and he would respond saying he had no idea. When he does get caught he will go on and on its normal everyone watches it I had to lie because you would get mad.
a) i got mad because of the lieing not the P
b) why would you hide something if you are not ashames?

Then this morning I realized he was obsessed he had been waking up extra early for work... let's just say I walked in and found out why..

I hope you dont take the lieing to heart I think he is ashamed and it's kind of sad, yea Iam really hurt and confused but this is really deeper then I realized within him

I also was ok with it, when i thought it was once in awhile but this I cant handle
sorry if I wasnt too much of a help it's nice to know im not alone though I thought I was crazy for feeling betrayed