Recovery For Pa Partners

[Searching4peace]

I ran across this info in my search for help and feel that it might work to give new members like me a guide to figure out where to go from here.

You have already taken the first steps by recognizing the porn addiction and learning more about its cause and effect. Can there be healing? Can you keep the marriage/relationship together?
Absolutely. Is there a lot of work to be done? Absolutely.

First, make a commitment to change. If you continue to do what you did yesterday, you will get yesterday's results.

Decide how you will get help and support.

• Read more about porn addiction and the healing process
  

• If you belong to a church, consider seeking assistance and support there. There are more couples facing this epidemic than you realize.
  

• Seek professional help from a therapist. This could be individual therapy or couples therapy. You can find one through the health care providers directory provided by your insurance company or through online or yellow page directories.

• Depending on the background of your relationship, you may want to consider joining a 12-step program

No matter which course of support and healing you choose, please know that:

• This is about him, not you. You did not drive him to the computer. He made his own decisions and his resulting addiction.

• You will feel worse before you begin to feel better.

• Both of you need to mend. Although it is tempting to focus all attention on getting him help to stop his online activities, do what you can each day to get yourself on a healthier path as well.

• Respect his need for privacy as well as yours. There is a great deal of shame and secrecy with a sexual addiction. There is a sexual stigma in our society that is hard to overcome.Family members and close friends may not be your best advocates.

• Only through calm, open, honest and frank discussion will there be a platform for
  rebuilding trust. Let him know how his addiction has affected you and your family.

These are some other sites that I have found helpful, but still recommend that you stick with through the flame for support. Talking about it is a major part of true recovery!

Porn Addict Hubby| Husband & Boyfriend Porn Addiction Recovery Help
What is Sexaholics Anonymous?
S-Anon International Family Groups

" In addition to this site, I have started reading S-ANON Twelve Steps released by s-anon international and available on the website, and Working the S-ANON Program by s-anon international also available on the site. These have worked well for me since there are no Sexaholic or S-anon meetings anywhere in my area. Granted these meetings are for anyone in the branch of sex addiction including Porn Addiction or family and friends of SA or PA's."

[jobs.steve]

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[slowlybecomingbitter]

Thanks so much for posting that info for us! It was a great reminder of the perspective that is so easily pushed aside by anger, grief, and bitterness. I guess it is one of those things where you really have to talk yourself through all the positive outlooks while going through such an addiction with your partner. Good luck to everyone!