|  What I used to do... -
08-11-2008, 06:27 PM
As a recovering PA and seeing your desire to understand your SO's situations, and really wanting to defeat P anywhere and everywhere, here are the things I used to do in order to continue to view online P:
1. arrange the situations such that I will be alone with my own laptop, usually at home. Wife gone, kids gone, perfect.
2. used the Windows User Controls to set up a Guest account (which started innocently enough) but then realized that the P activity could be done on the Guest account (and erased within the guest account).
3. used thumb drives to keep my P stash on. Though I never kept anything more than a day due to intense guilt, I used the devices to ferry the material around sometimes.
4. rarely used but probably more oft happens: "Honey, I need to work tonight on [some big project] and need privacy." If I was in my addiction, this kind of environment would be extremely tempting.
5. your favorite shopping sites don't recognize you because SO has deleted all the cookies to erase his browsing. Realize cookies and history are erased separately or together but when they go everything is thrown away.
6. getting up early/staying up late to get time alone with the PC.
7. excessive late nights/weekends at work, which may or may not be due to his surfing for P at work. Different companies have different ways of monitoring their networks.
8. business trips: the worst in my mind: unbridled access to P. as most hotels offer a broadband connection for free or cheap. Trips left me an emotional wreck which I carefully concealed from everyone.
I have been P free for 139 days and they have been the happiest most fulfilling days of my life. My wife and I are both healing nicely (thank God), our marriage is stronger than ever.
I am still ashamed of these old ways I used to do. I post them here so you may use them to get your life back to the ideal you always wanted.
Daniel | 
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