What intimacys are acceptable with no PMO?

[Loving Wife]

Hi all,This is my first post. My husband has had a problem for over 10 years and has finally realized there is a real problem. Not just me having an issue with it and being overly emotional. I have been neglected and hurt as the SOs have. Im trying to keep positive and let my love for him and our family guide me and bring me streangth, not easy though. This last month he has been hit with porn induced Ed and that has started him down the road to educating himself about PA, realizing he has a problem and seeking recovery. He is going with the no PMO "method". He is at the very begining of this journey. I admire his courage in starting this and allowing himself to wake up. We are both very confused though. Me the most. With no PMO what is acceptable intimacy with a SO? The current thought we have is it may be to risky due to the chaser effect to O at all until we see positive signs of a "reboot". For PA's has full physical intimacy with your SO been a help or Set back to recovery? Advice from SOs. Would be helpful as well. Today I'm feeling like I went from being neglected and having PMO Chosen above me to continue being without physical intimacy to get rid of the PMO issues. I hope I can some day have the relationship with the man I love that I have been robbed of. I want to be appropriately supportive to get us to that place in our marriage. Advice please.Thank you.

[JenMac]

Hi Loving Wife!
Welcome to TTF!
I am glad you are here!
Starting off with the tough questions! :)
I have to tell you that I think that is different for everyone. If it is decided that it is necessary to do the 90 day abstinence to help your H get back on track, then by all means stay the course. It will surely make a positive difference in his recovery.
Hopefully that time can be spent rebuilding intimacy outside of s*x. True intimacy of course is something so far removed from what they have been engaging in, and so resetting their thoughts on this can only be postitive in my mind.
I am glad you are here to heal for yourself LW. I hope your H intends to join us as well. There is much to be gained from being here together. My H, Mac and I have been here together for 21 months, and we have found it to be a real blessing in our lives.
There is a couple's chat on Wednesday evenings at 8pm EST if you and your H would like to join us. Many good conversations take place there.
I am wishing you peace and healing LW.
May your find the support you are looking for here!
All the best!
Jenn

[Loving Wife]

Thanks for responding JenMac. It helps so much to know there are others out there. I'll mention the site and couples chat to my hubby and see what happens.