Experiment

[Charly22]

Close your eyes and see a bright yellow lemon in your mind's eye. Now see a knife cutting the lemon into slices, and then see yourself biting into one slice. Did you notice that your mouth started watering? This happened exactly as if you were biting into an actual lemon. All it took was a mental picture, which you produced out of nowhere, and suddenly your body went into action. Millions of cells in your brain formed the image, a signal was sent along the network of nerves inside your head to your mouth; your salivary glands received the message and began to flow.


This is why I hate p.

[WayFarerNation]

Yeah but eating a lemon doesn't make me feel guilty about it. It's the guilt and shame that keeps me from going too far with my lustful thoughts. I don't feel that when I think of eating a lemon.

[Charly22]

it is the fact that just the image of the lemon has the same affect on you as if it were a real lemon, in your mouth. My point is this is why p feels like cheating. This is why it is not something that I can just overlook as a personality flaw.

[onward]

Such an excellent example, though it brings the reality of P to light in such a disturbing way. I wish my ex would have understood this. It is not fake and it is hardly anything less than cheating. :(

[Rockinastorm]

wow...

thanks.

I needed that.

[Rockinastorm]

I havent been able to stop thinking about this.
It took me a while to see I was looking at it from the wrong perspective.
This isnt about how it makes the PA feel but how it makes the SO feel.
This is why it hurts the SO so much, and why as a PA I didnt understand what I was doing.
I think I do now.
Thank you Charly22. I am going to copy this into my journal.