If roles were reversed, would he leave you?

[Hopeful]

To be honest I think that Rock would have stayed with me if he had the knowledge he has now. Who knows...

[BelieveInHope]

I too look at it as it would have to be an emotional or physical affair to truly reverse the roles. I just never would be into P/MB. For women I think it is the emotional needs being met and/or being desired, pursued, wanted in a physical relationship. I have not asked him, but I don't think Uplifted would leave. If I had an affair, he would take it as a personal rejection and comfirmation of his own lack of self-worth---i.e., every important person in his life has rejected and abandoned him because he is somehow defective and unworthy of their love (his parents both physically and emotionally abandoned him). He would stay, forgiving "on the surface", but underneath would seethe with resentment, bitterness, hatred, and self-loathing. He would simply retreat even further into his addictive world to avoid dealing with the feelings of being betrayed and rejected.
Our marriage would seem fine on the surface, but all it would be is surface--a shell.
Even now, with him in recovery, if I had an affair I do not know if he would be able to truly forgive me and move on. But I think he would stay.

[RichBlack]

Sorry for butting in, but for those that simply said "no", is that no they wouldn't leave, or no they wouldn't stay? Sorry again for this intrusion on your side of the board. Just trying to understand. :)