hi so trouble

[JenMac]

Hey Ang!
I don't know how this crabby thing is working for him but I would have a hard time with that!! Not your fault he is experiencing this, not your fault that this addiction is plaguing him! Seems to me that he needs to be showing you that you are important to him. You may need to start telling him how he can do that for you! I know I had to be very clear to Mac in how he could support me. He was working so hard to save our marriage and so he was open to the things that I was able to share with him. He was then able to apply those things to show me that saving our relationship was very important to him.
Don't be afraid to speak up for what you feel you need. Communication is very important! Then it is up to him to show you that your relationship is the most important thing to him at this moment.
All the best!
Jenn

[tntang]

hey dear i am want to win this thing but know i hav been craby so i will tone it down a little luv hugs and kisses

[transitionalgrace]

Hi Angtnt,

Welcome to the site, although I wish we were all here for another reason. Our new journeys are more like a roller coaster ride that is out of control, especially in the beginning, but hang on tight and and you'll make it through.

I found out 8 months ago about my husband's porn addiction. He is still in denial, we are separated after 34 years of marriage, and are probably going to get a divorce unless he realizes that he needs help. However, I still work the program for myself, to find peace for myself and healing. Through this site and several others, I have gained knowledge, wisdom, guidance, patience, courage and strength to face this demon. My advice to you is simple: Learn as much as you can about this toxic addiction and how to put yourself and your healing first. You can't help anyone out of this addiction until you get your wounded self healed first.

Recovery Nation is a website that has a workshop for pa's, their partners and for couples. It is very good and helped me out a lot. There is also another site that many of us here started with and that is called "no-porn.com" There are many of us on both sites. A good book to read is "Out of the Shadows of the Internet" by Patrick Carnes so that you get an idea of what this addiction is all about. another good book about pornography addiction is entitled "Pornland." A book that I recommend you read after you've read several books before is "Pornified" by Pamela Paul. This book is quite sensitive and I have to admit that is triggered me more than I care to admit.

I immediately got myself into therapy to understand what was happening, but I did some homework and went to a women that helps people with partners who are pa/sa's. Check in your area to see if there are any CSAT's because they specialize in this addiction.

Good luck, keep close to the websites that I suggested and you'll find that you have many people that are willing to support you and your healing.

>:D<