Hey Ladies...how old were you when YOU first viewed P?

[rosie]

Seeing lots of stats about the ages when men first viewed P.

So, how old were the SO's when they viewed P? Just how prolific is it for females? I would be interested to see some stats from the SO's here :)

I must preface this by saying that my family was incredibly strict, we weren't even allowed to watch shows with sex in them, etc. Until, well, I was much older.

I first viewed P at age 22, after having 2 children, and only because I found it in my house and was curious. Is this abnormal?

How about you?

[NewHope10]

Well - my parents home was very strict too. I wasn't even allowed to listen to the radio (secular music). My parents are more laid back now though.

Anyway - I guess the first time I saw P was just after I gave birth to my first son (at 17). My H at the time watched it. I was not impressed. I hated it, in fact. I think this is largely when my insecurities kicked in. It was a deeply troubled time in my life as he was also physically abusive towards me.

Thank God I had the support of my loving parents to get away from that marriage relatively fast (just after the birth of my second son when I was 18). But...the damage had been set.

[debv]

I was 22, after we got married. We would watch it together, occasionally. I enjoyed the white-bread stuff that was out in the 1980s and early 1990s, but when it started getting controlling and abusive to the women I stopped watching. That's when DW continued watching without me and became addicted. He ties it to my affair. He insists he wasn't addicted when he was watching P when he was younger, even though he was first exposed in high school, but I still wonder.

[Cupcakemomma]

I guess I'm the exception here.... I was 12 or 13. A friend of mine from hockey had a mag in his skate bag. I was shocked by how beautiful the women were and how artistically talented the photographer was to make the most awkward looking poses look graceful and almost elegant.... I had NO idea how differently that was perceived by the guys. Where I saw art and beauty and tasteful poses, they, it seems saw the potential for MORE.

[Life-lies-trust]

PB mag saw at age 20 when got my H a subscription. I liked the articles in the 1980's. Video crap at a friends house when another couple brought it. I was just curious about it. Read romance novels that after Dec '09 I have no interest in. I think I read them to get ideas to interest DG in me.

[WifeOfNewLifeMan]

I was about 8 or 9. My stepbrothers had some magazines in the shed in the backyard. They were half eaten by bugs and waterstained from being in the shed. I don't remember thinking anything about the magazine, I just thought my stepbrothers were stupid for looking at it.

I was about 25 when I actively searched for P online. I only did it a few times because I was embarrassed and I knew it was not something I should fill my mind with and went against my Christian values.

[TooSensitive]

Interesting answers here! I was 12. My mother had gone back to work after years of being a homemaker. I was now in charge of cleaning the house. Did a darn good job too, even cleaning under the beds. But that was where I found my father's stash. My mother also left a how-to library book about sex sitting out on a table. We lived in such a strict household, governed by religion, yet I was getting mixed messages from the mags and that book. I now wonder why I never became an SA/PA, after being exposed at such a young age, yet my h did. I just never had much interest in it, and any interest was more of a curiousity and a source of humor than anything.

I can remember being in a "club" with my then-bf, b/c he wanted to go, and I was curious. It was not intimidating back then, at the age of 18, and in fact it was a novelty to me to be there. When I was in my 20's and had to deliver a stack of pizzas to a club, I felt totally different and really uncomfortable being there.

[Broken Spirit]

The first time I ever saw porn was when I was 19. My first husband and I had gone to the drive-in and the second feature was a soft porn film. My then husband and I went home because I could not stand to watch the nudity. I was very shy back then and naive. :-o

After my first husband and I divorced, I had boyfriends in between him and my second husband that bought the various P mags and such, but never saw any computer involvement. When I discovered it on my second husband's computer at work, I was totally flabberghasted. I am still in shock after discovering him watching P at home.:((

[Loving_FGL]

I was 21 when I was shown p by a friend. I didn't really care for it. That is the only time I've seen it since. That was a few years ago now.

[BelieveInHope]

Unfortunately I was about 7. As kids, my sister and I would go stay with our cousins for a week in the summer. My uncle had a huge work garage that was literally wall-paper covered in posters and calendars of nude women. It was not 'hardcore', but it was still P. My cousins, sister, and I would go in there every day and look at all the pictures. We were fascinated. I don't know what the boys thought, but us girls thought the p stars were beautiful. I remember thinking, "they are so beautiful, this is what men want'. Yes, at 7.
I later had eating disorders. So did my sister. My female cousin had self esteem issues and flitted from boyfriend to boyfriend searching for acceptance, trading her body for love. My male cousin is now so fully addicted to p/mb that he almost always chooses it over being with his very attractive, young girlfriend (they are both 26).

I wonder if there is any research out there on how early P exposure affects girls. We know it is one of the hallmarks of sex addiction for guys. My H was 6. But what about me? Did that early exposure cause me to have an internal picture of what I 'should' look like, what I needed to be? Did consuming those impossibly airbrushed images ingrain in me a strong desire to become as much like those women as possible?

All very, very sad, IMO.