Social Networking sites dangerous?

[Hopeful59]

So, after I caught on to DH's p-addiction, I found out that he spent lots and lots of time on MySpace (even after he allegedly quit visiting p-sites). Eventually DH told me that his time spent there was a major factor in encouraging his use of p. During the small amount of time I have spent browsing there I have seen numerous ads for "dating sites", adult sites and lots and lots of pictures of young women scantily clad or doing their best to show you their b**bs. (Sad that women have stooped to prostituting themselves to try and get a man.)

Turns out my DH had several MySpace accounts, one of which listed him as single. His main account had over 700 friends (allegedly fellow gamers) but way too many young scantily clad girls. I think several "friends" were online prostitutes of some kind. Naturally I demanded that all MySpace accounts be deleted and they have been.

DH also has a Facebook page, which I know about. Facebook seems to be a little cleaner IMO, but he often receives friend requests from young women he does not know. The last one was clothed, but suggestively posed. I think this is related to DH's visits to many p-sites, but am not sure (I think he is tracked through his email address).

What are your thoughts on social networking sites? I am beginning to think that people with p-addiction should not participate at all.

[Cupcakemomma]

Oh I wish I wish. FB has been a huge problem for BF, and for my snooping problem as well. He has used it to do ALL kinds of nasty things, but he still uses it, and its still a problem... I know that there are some new thingscoming out to make it a bit more secure and that you can change privacy settings to make it harder for people to find you, but it really is just a ain in the bum. LOL. I hope you guys can find a solution to this issue :)

[JenMac]

Just had our first issue with FB last night.
Private message came on my H's fb and when he clicked on it, an inappropriate picture popped up.
It threw both of us for a bit of a loop, we were startled by it actually.
I had been reading on here that FB could be a problem for some but we hadn't experienced that until last night.
My H discontinued his FB account right after this happened, as it made him very uncomfortable.
Seems unfortunate that you can't trust any of these things really!
Jenn

[Missingus]

I myself have used FB for over two years and have never had anything even remotely inappropriate occur. There currently are sufficent privacy settings and such. In order to have these things happening, there simply must be an outside source. Email addresses used for P, something written in their profile which is also set to be visable to nonfriends, or possibly they joined a group downloaded a "quiz" or game that shares their information. If the emails the problem, close the account and open a new one. Hide the profile, unfriend the groups. Or just open a new account and report the abusers to FB. The excuses heard earlier are just that, excuses for not taking the neccisary steps to stay clean. Like I said, I have used it for a long time and absolutely nothing has ever come up!

[JenMac]

I beg to differ MU!
I have had a FB account for a while too and I have had contacts from unknown people. Perhaps I don't have the knowledge about the privacy settings but I believe I have them set right. I have also had that happen on my email account.
Any of the things you have sited are not the case in this instance.
Please don't be so quick to assume. Just because it hasn't happened to you yet doesn't mean it won't or that it doesn't happen to others.
Jenn

[NewHope10]

My H and I share a FB profile. Why you ask? Well...when we heard of FB and decided to open an account just over 3 years ago - there had already been a few P "discoeries" prior to that and, quite frankly...I didn't trust my H to have his own account.

Over this last couple of years (while he was using, unbeknownst to me at the time) - he would stay up all hours and he was really into the poker. I remember sometimes watching a poker game he was playing - and seeing who some of the other players were and let me tell you...their profile pic could have been labled P. I woulder wonder at times, but then would think "naaaaah". Silly me, eh?

H opened a twitter account. Actually - 2. One that I knew of and 1 I did not. I won't get into that because its the past and do not even want to "go there". Its just too maddening and hurtful.

Anyway - even with the privacy settings on to the hilt...getting suspicious friend requests and notes happen. They just do. My H wouldn't have dared to join a group or something that I wouldn't agree to, because we have the same profile.

So Jenn...its happened to me too.

In any event - I would not agree to my H having his own profile on any social networking site. Too many temptations if you ask me.

That's just how I feel.

[JenMac]

Funny enough, Mac joined FB after I did as it is a great way to keep up with our out of town friends and family members. He has only been a member for a few months. After concerns were raised here, we discussed guidelines about FB and I still didn't really understand the concerns. I also have passwords if I feel a need to check up. Then this happened and it just made it clear that what you think is okay, may not be after all.
Anyway, we will have communicate either through my account or the old fashioned way as Mac has discontinued his account.
I guess you can't truly have innocence in anything these days!
Jenn

[Missingus]

The simple fix would be to block IM's from nonfriends. That is one of the privacy settings. I also block any posts on my wall, sent from non-friends. Maybe non-Mac users don't have as many setting options? I dont know, going through mine it appears pretty clean cut. But again, I have a Mac so maybe it's different for those of you who don't. Sorry to offend anyone, I really didn't mean to. ;(

[JenMac]

No worries MU!
I have a Mac too! Not the computer but the man! :D
Jenn