Accountability Software Installed, What do I do next?

[Loving_FGL]

So we just installed the accountability software on his computer (cell phone is not an issue because he doesn't have internet access on it). I just received his first report. What do I do now? What kind of conversation should I have with him next? Should we set goals or what? I mean obviously I should talk to him about this. What is the next step though?

[JenMac]

HI Loving!
Well....what do you want to know from him? Or what do you want him to know or understand from you?
Have you set your boundaries? Does he know what you expect of him?
I guess, open communication is what we are aiming for. Understanding each other and what we need from our relationship to make us feel loved, respected and safe.
Goals are good, guidelines are good, clear expectations are good too.
Talk about what your needs are. Be clear about what you expect.
Discuss the report and what you find disturbing about it, if there is anything. Discuss what needs to change or what is going well. Discuss whatever comes to you that you feel the need to discuss. It is important for you to feel like you are being heard at this time. Very important.
All the best and good luck!!
Jenn