My husband is losing it and so am I

[Inshi]

Thanx so uch for being here for us all of you.First of all I wanna thank 'foolish mind' my husband for understanding what I said and for having the courage to join this forum and own up to it.It is not easy to take ownership for something wrong you have done and I totally appreciate that, so well done to him! I hope this a new start for us and see how it goes from here.Its not gonna be easy and I know that I wont be able to forget things that easily as well, but its a start.And Iam happy that my husband is not doing this cos I said so but cos he loves me and my daughter and wants to do it for himself.
The advice and support I had from all of you here was,I dont know what to say, but Thank you!
My husbands said a lot in response to my mail and he has said some of those things when we had this problem b4, so its not easy for me to just believe all those words and get back to normal.Yet this time,something has changed in him,that is him wanting to stop this addiction.I will support him all the way and I do hope and pray that it lasts.
As I said b4 I truly have nothing else left in me to fight this and will totally give up otherwise.I have wasted 5 years of my life trying to fight all these women in the cyber world, I dont think I can do it anymore.

[FoolishMind]

Dominius and Light, Thank you for your kind words.

[illumination]

I just read this through a link from another post. Those letters are some of the most moving things I have ever read. I hugely admire your courage and honesty for posting them here. I can sense the fundamental changes you are going through and I really hope this site is helping.

[FoolishMind]

Ive been giving a lot of thought as to where to place my 500th post today. I have posted on many occasions, thanking other members, my wife, admin and this site as a whole.

But I have decided to post here, The thread where it all started for me and Inshi.

This is the thread that Inshi happened to stumble upon and beg for help for her marriage that was nearly going to end in such a painful way.

This is the thread that she gained good wholesome advice, to give our marriage one last chance.

This is the thread that brought tears to my eyes while reading my wife's letter.

This is the thread that totally broke me down as a person

This is the thread that then allowed me to believe in myself, open my eyes, and rebuild my foundations.

This is the thread that allowed me to make a start to save my marriage.

500 posts ago I did not think I would become P free, I honestly thought it would only be a slight delay in what I then thought was a certain divorce.

500 posts later, I am a changed man, with a changed wife and a changed life.

If anyone is wandering whether or not they can take this journey on: - If you think your relationship is worth a little effort and worth shedding a few tears then yes you can do it. It will probably be one of the best things that can happen to you, your partner and your life as a whole.

I wish the best of strength and determination to everyone who undertakes this journey.

Thank You.

[Scooter]

WOW. I hadn't read this thread before... you guys are amazing and so inspirational. Congratulations on 500 posts. You are a huge inspiration to anybody that comes to this site, a real life success story.

Good luck to you, and I look forward to your 1000th post in 6 months time.

[Sheemie]

WOW! That's amazing. Thank you FM and Inshi. This thread is such an inspiration. FM, putting your 500th post here was a great idea. Congratulations to both of you. :)

[Heartbroken85]

Thank you for putting this on here. I identify with it so well. I cried through your wife's letter for two reasons, 1.) Because I have felt the worthlessness and the trembling after finding out his secrets, and 2.) Because I felt so happy that I'm not alone in the terrible feelings. And your response gave me so much hope for my boyfriend. That he can change. Thank you.

[Toria]

Hi Inshi

I'd just like to say that you are my rolemodel on here. I have read yours and your husband's stories. As you have done so well at being the perfect wife and saving your relationship, I have decided that the first step for me is to do exactly as you did. Write him a letter.

Thank you for sharing your story and being an inspiration.

[FoolishMind]

Bumping this thread up again, as it this was the thread that saved my life and my marriage, I also know that this thread has helped many others.

This applies to both SO's and PA's Keep things simple, and realise why the advice is effective if carried out properly.

FM