What recovery does for us

[Crisodian]

Artguy's and my recovery journey is still fairly new, I admit that. We have our struggles and setbacks like everyone, but there have been some huge positive changes in our lives. So often we SOs share how PA makes us feel on the negative side of things. I thought I would post my thoughts to the positive. If any other recovering couples, or even recovering PAs would like to share what PA recovery has done to improve their lives, please feel free to share.

1. I have my best friend, partner and husband back.

2. There is no more sneaking around. No more feelings of "what is he up to now", instead of spending time with me.

3. Our children have their dad back.

4. We are closer emotionally, physically, and intimately than we ever were.

5. We can talk. About anything. Without fear of repercussions from the other partner.

6. It takes work to build trust (or rebuild it). We now work together to do that for each other.

7. We spend time with each other. Just being together with each other. Not with PA. Not with life's problems. Just simply being together.

8. We're able to handle what life throws at us as a couple.

9. We're more productive as a team. Things that were being ignored (before the revelation of PA) are getting accomplished now because he is more engaged in our lives.

10. We can accept each other for who we are as people... flaws and all.... without it changing how we feel for each other.

And

11. Our house is a more peaceful place. No fighting. No bad feelings. It's become a home and we've become a family again.


Feel free to add to the list ...

~C~

[lightseeker]

Hey C, from reading your first post to now i can see you guys have made great progress since you started, i am glad you are doing much better and i really hope things keep improving for you both, dont give up and stay strong!

Great post! Take care.

-LS-

[Crisodian]

Thanks ls.

IMO,as SOs, we so often we fall into the trap of always looking at the negative. Finding fault. Placing blame. At some point, we need to look from a different direction. There are so many positives to PA recovery. It was time to talk about those for a change.

~C~

[artguy34]

This is awesome sweetie! ^:)^ Especially after this weekend and how we worked hard together!

I just have this urge to sing karaoke to Sonny & Cher's "I Got You Babe"

Ok I know, that was so wrong on so many levels! But hey, what do you expect? Its me! :D

[Crisodian]

I would expect nothing less. :P

~C~

[artguy34]

I would expect nothing less. :P

~C~

Somebody is a wee bit cheeky! :D

(But I'll never complain about that!) ;)

[Crisodian]

You started it.

~C~

[artguy34]

Of Course! :D

Anything less would be uncivilized!

[terawave]

You two are a hoot! Today was a trying day for me, however when I read your post it made me smile. Carry on to sweet victory...

[Crisodian]

Thanks terawave. I'm glad we could make someone smile. :)

~C~