Progress Not Perfection

[dray]

Hi everyone!

Thanks to all that recently joined my friends list and to those who sent kind and thoughtful messages. The people on this site rock!

Just an update...so far, so good. My partner and I are in a 12 step program for PAs and SOs. We've both been going to meetings and have found sponsors. We're also talking to each other more than we ever have and are trying very hard to understand each others feelings and struggles. Although we still get "testy" at times, there's a big difference in the way we communicate. It sure seems like progress to me. I'm hopeful for the first time in a long time and so grateful for the changes that are visibly occurring. There's the issue of trust, but I'm working on it. I'm starting to see what I can accept and what I can't, in this relationship or life as a whole.

Tomorrow, we'll go to our first meeting together as a couple.That should be interesting! Also enlightening, uniting and strengthening I hope. :)

Although I'm new here, I see from reading blogs here and on another site and attempting to learn as much as I can about PA in a compassionate way ( not to say I never lose it, because I sure do!) that honest communication (by both) is a very important step in recovery. Stopping the behavior(s) of the addiction is probably MOST important; I think honesty runs a close second. For example if my partner was having a tough time with PA, I'd much rather know it than be lied to again. We're attempting to be closer physically now, but I need honest answers to my questions and a willingness to answer them; he's becoming more open about his true feelings.

I really can't ask for more right now and I'm really happy things are getting much better here.

Thank you all for your support...I appreciate you.