My Recovery - There is hope

[Glass_of_water]

A little over 3 months ago I was ready to leave my husband as I had finally had enough of the lies and betrayal that surrounded the P addiction.

It is amazing that it was really such a short time ago, because things have really changed between my husband and I. Much of the change is a direct result of this site, my husband has read many of the stories of the partners and what they are going through (whilst the posts of the P addicts have given him some tools to tackle his addiction, it is the stories of the women that have changed the way he sees me, sees himself and sees his addiction).

His whole view of himself is changing and my view of him is also changing. I am starting to see the man I fell in love with again and he is starting to see himself as a man again.

We still have filters on the computers, and my husband still sometimes has thoughts and impulses which he has said have become less and he is far better at tackling. He has not had a slip since he joined this site, and that in itself has been amazing for us.

The timing has been perfect because around the time we joined this site we had conceived a child together, now there is hope for this child to be born into a happy healthy family.

Thank you, you have all contributed to helping give our family a chance.

[AirKeep]

GoW, congratulations on where you are at in your journey. I was reading through some of your last posts, and came across the one where you said you were done fighting and there was nothing left worth fighting for.

I'm sure at that time that was putting it lightly. Glad to see with some hope, perseverance, and I'm sure more work than I can imagine, it can be overcome and it's nice to see where you are at now. I hope it continues to get better!

[FoolishMind]

GOW, reading your update has put a huge beaming smile on my face, thank you so much for the update. Again and again, its so clear that if things are just made simple and logical, and the PA educates himself about the damage caused, the motivation becomes instantly obvious.

Congratulations on the little one on the way, and I beleive that must truly be a blessing to increase yet more love within your family.

May you and your family go on from strength to strength.

Please dont leave this site though, it is people like you, that really help others here, the ratio of positivity here needs to be increased!

All the best

FM =D>

[emptied]

Thank you so much for such an encouraging post.

Your original post was one that touched me a deeply and made me cry so badly. I could identify with so many of your feelings and it helped me so much to know that somebody else was dealing with some of the same awful, confusing emotions I was.

I'm really happy for you that you and your hubby are working things out. Hopefully I'm heading in the same direction with mine and one day I'll be able to pass on a success story to help keep others going too.

We all need to know that this can be beaten and that hearts and minds do heal.

Thanks again and congratulations on your lovely news.

[dray]

I'm so happy for you...your post gives me comfort and helps me believe things can change. What an inspiration you are...you did give me hope today. Thank you.:D^:)^

[Avegan]

So happy for you :) x

[jenlynn90]

congrats on the baby and everything getting better!! :)

[livada]

Congrats on the baby:)

Thanks for injecting hopes to us PAs, that, provided that we stick to our promises and seriously transform ourselves, there is hope of healing and renewed, vigorous love. God willing!

:)

[Glass_of_water]

Thank you.

Things have really changed between us. The last two weeks have been a good test for both my Husband and myself. He had two weeks off (between leaving one job and starting a new job) where he spent most of his time on the computer.

I have had to trust that he is not falling back into old habits and I must admit sometimes I felt full of doubt but we have worked through the two weeks without a major hiccup.

We both are still working on it and we are both much happier.

And we are nearly 25 weeks pregnant so the timing has been perfect and we both have a goal to being the best we both can be.

Thank you everyone. *hug*

[FoolishMind]

and we both have a goal to being the best we both can be.

What an absolutely wonderful goal!

Do you know what all this year I have been goal setting, setting milestones etc, and reading you and your husbands shared goal is just so simple yet so powerful.

aaah feel all warm and fuzzy inside now, Love is a wonderful thing, and reading so many journals here it clearly shows love is not ove and love really can conquer all. Love and respect is one heck of a powerful force. Perhaps I should just open a clinic and get everyone in a room, and make everyone hug constantly for a hour! I will think about it, and put it in a business plan!

Thanks Glass, keep updating us ok.

Frequently Mad