Boy help? lol

[hast]

Wellllll
I like this place a lot and feel like the people here give good advice, so I thought I'd come here for a little advice about a guy I like. haha I feel somewhat silly, but whatever

SO The second semester of senior year (last year), I was assigned a seat in my government class right behind a guy that was friends with my big sister a couple years before, and who I'd always heard was really awesome.

I made it my mission to make clever comments and such to him during class and get him to think I was cool. I succeeded in winning him over in under a week, and he, two other guys, and I were a little group of buddies in that class.

The semester flew by, and we..well I graduated. (he failed his math class and graduated over summer)
I didn't talk to him a ton after that. We were friends on facebook and kept in touch, but that's about it. Until my car needed a little part replaced. He's going to be a mechanic, so I asked him if he would help out.

I went over, saw him working on my car, and realized I like him ^_^
I think he looked at me differently the next day, when I had to go back for him to finish fixing it. I can't be sure, but when we had to run to the store, he kept looking at me in the eyes while driving (not the entire time of course haha), and I just thought there was something different in his eyes.

So now it's like..Now what?! I like him now, but we're done with the car, so we only talk over facebook, again. How do I move forward with this..and SHOULD I move forward?

Haha thanks if you read this far, I think this ended up kinda long....

[Crisodian]

IMO, and it's just my opinion ... I say go for it if you like him. Just take it slow. Start as friends. I have always been a firm believer that for a sound, healthy, long-lasting relationship to flourish, you have to be friends before anything else. Develop the friendship and see where it leads. Call him and go on a date.

Some things to consider: Communication is key. Can you talk to him? About anything? Are you comfortable doing so? Do your conversations last and are they meaningful? Do you have shared interests? What does he like? Dislike? Are you comfortable being around him?

The only word of caution I would share with any young woman is be sure his intentions are good. You don't want to find yourself invested in what you feel is a strong relationship only to discover all he wanted was a little .........

Wow. Dating advice. LOL And here I figured I wouldn't be sharing any until my sons we a lot older.

Good luck hast! Ultimately it's your decision. You're young. More than anything have fun and enjoy life! It can get way to stressful and tedious way too fast...LOL

Hope this helps.
~C~

[hast]

Some things to consider: Communication is key. Can you talk to him? About anything? Are you comfortable doing so? Do your conversations last and are they meaningful? Do you have shared interests? What does he like? Dislike? Are you comfortable being around him?

The only word of caution I would share with any young woman is be sure his intentions are good. You don't want to find yourself invested in what you feel is a strong relationship only to discover all he wanted was a little .........
~C~

Thanks, C!

As far as communication goes, I can talk to him better than anyone I've ever talked to before...that's why I like him! We can talk about anything and everything, and he's clever and funny, and appreciates my random bits of knowledge and my sarcastic humor. It's been weeks since he fixed my car (that's why we were "hanging out"), but we had such a vast and interesting conversation for the total of like 5 hours in the two days, that I find I'm STILL menitioning the conversation all the time.

I'm also more comfortable around him than any guy I've ever liked before. I already know that he thinks I'm awesome, as I had to make him think I was in order to get in his group, so I'm never worried he doesn't like me...and we were just plain friends for so long that I'm not confused how to act around him even though I like him now. ahhhh he makes me so happy ^_^

As for his intentions....we're of the same religion, and he knows how deeply committed I am to it. He is actually preparing to leave on a mission for our church, himself. We don't know when he'll leave yet, but it does mean that either I wait until he comes home in 2 years to make anything happen, or I get something started now so I can have it later. Or maybe just have something now, so that if I meet someone else later, I won't regret not having made anything out of our relationship....

[Crisodian]

As for his intentions....we're of the same religion, and he knows how deeply committed I am to it. He is actually preparing to leave on a mission for our church, himself. We don't know when he'll leave yet, but it does mean that either I wait until he comes home in 2 years to make anything happen, or I get something started now so I can have it later. Or maybe just have something now, so that if I meet someone else later, I won't regret not having made anything out of our relationship....

You're welcome :)

IMO, if you feel that strongly about him, you should consider telling him. Let your feelings be known before he leaves. Maybe you two can start a correspondence while he is away? Distance, while hard on a relationship, has been known to make the heart grow fonder ... ;)

Just my thoughts.


Best wishes.
~C~