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[Wreck]

Hi,
Married (maybe not for much longer) at least no kids. Got caught recently. Not for the first time. Want to be done for good this time. Going to try the filters. Anyone used Safe Eyes? I'm hopeful... Any other things people have found especially helpful?

[Inshi]

Hi Wreck

Iam really sorry to hear about the situation you are in. My husband used to be in the same position as you, not knowing if he was gonna have a wife and kid the next day or be all by himself cos his PA took over his life.Anyway we joined this site in January and so far things have been great.So if he can do it, so can you.
I have installed internet filter software on our pc at home and his work laptop, so he really hasnt got an option, but he is really happy that its there, cos he has no way of accessing any P sites even when he is really tempted. The software we have got is cybersitter, which is pretty good and would recommend it.But I would advice you to talk to your wife and make sure only she knows the password for it, and say you do try to access something, it will log a file and email your wife about it or she can check its file logs anytime.
My H did a breakdown of all these softwares you can have and choose the best one.
Given below is the link:

Internet Filter Software & Reviews

Hope this helps somewhat. You have come here of your own accord and want to do this for yourself. Be strong, ask for your wifes support and you will get through this together.
Goodluck!

[Little lock]

Hey Wreck, and welcome to TTF. I cannot lay claim to understanding your situation, as I personally have never been in it. However, we are all on the same journey here. If you want my advice on helpful things, I suggest taking a look around this site. It has alot to offer, from information regarding P and what you can do to stop your PA. I also recommend starting a journal at the Journal section here. It can help you kkep track of your progress and allow others to support you at the same time.

Here are some links to other journals I found rather inspiring.

Long walk to freedom - Vorlan (Ben)'s Recovery Journal This is Vorlan's journal, one of the senior members here at TTF.

Three Hundred and Sixty-Five Days AE's journal. Another awesome one as well.

Vilema draws a line in the sand... Vilema's journal. I found her journal very inspiring and helpful, as she as been through alot of hardship, but still keeps a remarkable attitude towards life.

[Glass_of_water]

Hi Wreck, like Inishi our marriage was at the point where I had asked my husband to leave when we found this site. My husband asked me to install K9 which logs history and also blocks sites and only I have the password.

We are now working towards building the relationship together and it is looking optimistic. It takes time and patience from both sides, but most importantly he is being honest now.

I hope you can work through this.

[Wreck]

Thank you to those who replied to my first post.

Having tried to quit before I sort of know what I'm in for. Somewhat unfortunately for me, the first few days are easy after I get caught (I'm terrified). Then my resolve fades slowly over a period of weeks. So, it isn't the first month I'm worried about (although I certainly don't want to take anything away from people who have made it 30 days, it's a real accomplishment). I have to find a way to keep from slipping back into old habits later when my thoughts about quitting are on the back burner. It seems like frequent visits here would help but what else have people done to stay on track after a period of weeks.

[AnxiouslyEngaged]

If you haven't decided to do this already, I would definitely recommend that you start a journal. Then come here every single day and update it with your progress and problems. That, more than anything, will help you to remember what you're doing and why.

Also, spend time contributing in other ways to these forums. Reading through journals is a great way to better understand your addiction and find inspiration on ways to beat it.

Good luck, Wreck. Just take it one day at a time.

AE

[ShannonErin]

Well im happy to say that you have come to the right place. I myself am the partner of a former/PA. I can understand to an extent like everyone else what you are going through in having been dealing with this with my fiance for over a year now. There isnt anything wrong with you and its very good to come to this forum. I do suggest you read some other threads. I prefer to read things from FoolishMind a PA recovery success, and Threads from Cmperry to read the other side of being a PA partner. Keep up the good work and please keep us updated as much as you can.

[Wreck]

Thanks to everyone that replied to my first post. I started a journal since you guys all seem to think that's the way to go. I appreciate all the words of encouragement.

[ShannonErin]

keep up the good work and keep us updated