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[dawn1952]

varnson, just the fact that you're here and by the words you write, I believe in you. You want to recover and that's such an important step. Your wife is a very lucky woman.

[Devastated2]

Hi varnson and welcome to TTFYou are taking positive steps in regaining your wife's trust just by being here. Each day of sobriety will bring you closer to regaining it entirely. Don't give up and keep coming back here. You will find the support you need from the wonderful people here. Best of luck!

Thanks for the advice Widowgirl... the biggest thing she is upset about is that I had conversations with other women about explicit stuff. Looking back on it makes me sick. I know that I betrayed her and her trust in me. Everytime she brings it up, it tears me apart. I know that we as humans can never truly forgive adn forget." But I hope and pray that she can someday find 5% of the admiration she used to have for me.

[widowgirl]

You know, Varnson, what you just said about how it makes you sick to look back on it? I wish my husband had said that to me; it would have made a big difference. It's the secrecy that's so damaging. Your honesty will go a long way toward mending things. She is sticking with you- that's a good sign. It will take time but stay the course and things will start to heal.