New PA here

[mary b]

Welcome to both Mwanzo and TYC!!! I'm fairly new here myself and am an SO of a PA...Your stories are helping me already because my bf started his addiction when he was right about your ages...he is now 30 and has finally admitted to his problem and we are trying to work our way through this...You have my full support and wishes for a recovery...you both sound like you have what it takes to beat this thing..I look forward to talking with you more on here! mary

[TYC113]

Oh, Mary B, that sounds so great that your boyfriend is really starting to help him with his addictions. That is really great for the two of you. I am so glad. If your boyfriend needs someone to talk to, he can always talk to me on here and there are countless others here as well. This is a great site to talk on this. I know that with you on his side wanting to see him succeed must make him happy. That is so cool. I am hoping he can overcome it all. I am hoping for the best for you & am hoping for the best for your boyfriend too. Anytime you two want to come on here, you can both do so. We're supporting you and rooting for your boyfriend to overcome. It's nice to meet you, Mary B. Much appreciation for the support and love.

TyC

[Disillusioned]

Hi M,
Wow, that's going to take some short term memory focus to remember how to spell your name. My problem, not yours. Welcome to TTF. I am amazed that there are several of you (young single men)that are part of us now, that have come before having relationships in the real world and before causing so much pain to others. Ty said something about it being easier to recover if you have an SO. I am so grateful you haven't hurt another person yet. You had the insight in yourselves to want to get rid of this to be the better men you were designed to be, and hopefully, to one day, be able to relate to potential partners in the real world.
I will tell you one thing with certainty. P starts out as a curiosity, but ends up being like a whirlpool, sucking all of you in, including the wonderful parts of you. It seems like it gets to be a problem when you use it to escape the real world and hide from all the pain and anxiety you are experiencing. I see your walk to become p free as an acknowledgment that you wish to be present in your real world. This is a safe place to work it all out, M. There are caring people here and many who struggle with the same things you do.
Welcome. Sorry this has come into your life. Sorry my generation did not recognize the evil that p is and remove it from the planet so young men like you would never stumble over it and get hurt. My best wishes to you as you begin your recovery.
disillusioned

[mwanzo]

Disillusioned,
Thanks for the kind words.I indeed do find TTF a wonderful community to be on (even though am not on it as much as i would like).Your post says pretty much everything about PA.I think the worst thing about it is that so many people live in denial for so long.Thank heavens there's a place like TTF.I hope to learn a lot from everyone here.
P.S You get the hang of the name soon enough :)

mary b & TYC,awesome having you here too.mary b thanks,its great your SO wants to get rid of his PA.The hardest step is admitting you have a problem.Just hang in there with him and everything will turn out great.The TTF community will be right here with you every step

TYC just noticed you listen to Red,very cool of you :)

[Daniel]

mwanzo,

I can see you're already feeling plenty welcomed at TTF but would like to extend my welcome also -glad you're here, let the healing begin.

Daniel

[TYC113]

Thank you, Mwanzo for the lovely compliment. I am very glad that you are here. And you are right. People don't think PA as a real addiction because they feel it doesn't hurt anybody, at least in my opinion. But it really does. It hurts you first off, and it can lead to some very dangerous things for the people involved in P. I also thought that since I wasn't paying for P, I didn't contribute to any form of their profits. But every click on their sites is a form of cash. So denial of it was one of the hardest things I had to overcome, Mwanzo, and I am glad you did it too. Great. I'm glad you're here now.

And yes, I love Red. Great Band.

TyC

[Teemo]

mwanzo,

Let me add my welcome and my congratulations that you are here because of your own recognition that this is a serious problem for you. You are young; I am not. I fed my addiction for many years. I hope you find success. It is truly worth it. We do this because life is worth living. I am sorry that I poisoned my mind for so many years. I hope you are able to find the way out of this addiction and live the life you are meant to live. I hope to read more of your writing here in your journal!

Teemo