Glad you all are here

[Amethyst]

I saw this site a year or so ago and then this weekend realized again when my wife was out of town how I need help with P, and I couldn't find this site at first but then lower down in the google search i remembered the site name. I really like the approach of the site, focus on just the stuff that is going to be helpful, not a lot of mumbo jumbo. I really hope I can stick with it, I already feel so much more empowered, and feel like it will help other aspects of my life. Thank you guys who set up and run this site.

[Yechezkel]

I saw this site a year or so ago and then this weekend realized again when my wife was out of town how I need help with P, and I couldn't find this site at first but then lower down in the google search i remembered the site name. I really like the approach of the site, focus on just the stuff that is going to be helpful, not a lot of mumbo jumbo. I really hope I can stick with it, I already feel so much more empowered, and feel like it will help other aspects of my life. Thank you guys who set up and run this site.

Welcome to TTF! You can do this my friend, welcome home...


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[Remi]

Welcome and good luck Amethyst. This site is a blessing for all of us and it will be a very powerful resource for you. Welcome to the TTF family.

[Amethyst]

Thank you Yechezkel and Remi for the welcome. It does feel like becoming part of a family. Funny to communicate with strangers who at the same time know exactly what it is like. Thanks for that. It is indeed a blessing for all of us. I find it strange how a destructive habit can bring about something good, like the community on this site. Well done Remi for telling your folks about what is going on for you. When I have to tell my wife i've looked at P it is the hardest thing in the world, but there is no way I could refrain from internet P without my wanting to be accountable to her.

[Amethyst]

by the way remi, i like your seagull quote

[JenMac]

Welcome to TTF Amethyst!
I am glad you have found us again! As you can see, you will receive much support here. That is the great thing about this site. There are so many here who know what you are going through and can jump in to offer support or guidance at any time.
You mention your wife Amethyst. I was wondering if she would be open to joining as she would gain much from that same support and encouragement from the wonderful group of SOs here. I know, for me, this site has been a blessing to me to have people to share with, as I chose not to share this with anyone in my everyday life. I felt so alone until I discovered TTF. I have found wonderful support and friendship here along this way. My husband, Mac and I have been here together since last April and it has virtually saved our relationship!
Wishing you all the best Amethyst! May you find strength and healing here at TTF!
Jenn

[Amethyst]

thank you Jenn - at this point i am choosing not to involve my wife - she knows i have a problem, we have faced it a numerable points in our relationship and marriage; it was a big issue that came up in our pre-marital counseling - i think i will let her know that i am connected with this site at some point in the future, but for now i feel very good about how the site is empowering me, and like your signature says - let it begin with me - in the end, i 've realized, i can only really turn down P because that is the choice i have made - that's where i am at, anyhow - by the way, i assume "SO" means spouse?

[Phil413]

by the way, i assume "SO" means spouse?

I think it stands for "Significant Other." Could be a spouse, or a boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.

Phil

[Amethyst]

Significant Other - SO - that makes sense

[Remi]

Yep Amethyst, telling others is a powerful thing. Accountability breaks that secrecy that PA thrives on. Telling my folks was a MAJOR weight of my mind and it has been a strong driving force in my recovery.