Just Joined - TIA

[Jon Doe 109]

This is my first post... I think you know the gist of my story. 2 days no P or MB... I've a long way to go.
Thanks,
Jon

[Yechezkel]

Jon, welcome to TTF!

I know you will find support here, there are so many helpful people here who are willing to talk if you ever need to, please can you tell us a little more about your struggle?


Yechezkel.

[Jon Doe 109]

Thanks for the reply. I didn't say much since, after reading so many personal stories here, I realise mine is nothing new. I got hooked at a young age and never really thought it was a problem until I began objectiving women in my mind while talking to them. That's when I knew I had to quit, I don't want to be that guy.
... this forum seems like a good place to start. It seems there are a lot of sucess stories here and I'm motivated (although completely new). Thanks again, Jon.

[mell]

Jon,

Welcome to TTF.

Yes, many stories are similar. That said, it is a big step to open up and share your own. It takes time to get comfortable with it, but once you open up, you will get support from others who have been there and worked through it.

Best wishes to you. Hope to see you around.

[grasshopper]

That's when I knew I had to quit, I don't want to be that guy.

It's this kind of inner realisation that we are becoming something we hate that can drive long term recovery. There are many levels of understanding it and I need regular breakthroughs to a new level to freshen this realisation and implant it deeper and deeper in me. Slowly it morphs from "I don't want to be like that" into "I want to be like THAT!!" when we get a glimpse of who we can be. It's a long, hard and necessary journey.

Determination and grit have their place. The euphoric motivation that we get in the early stages of abstinence is useful. The support of friends, family and forum members is invaluable. But for me the engine that chugs away underneath it all is just this: the realisation that in a very profound and universal sense, I want to be a real person; I do not want to be that guy.

I wish you all the best.

GH

[Jon Doe 109]

Thanks for the thoughtful comments. This forum is very inspiring and encouraging. On day 3 now and things with my wife are going great. I guess that's a possible side effect of quitting P :)

[IN NEED OF HELP]

Jon Doe 109

I am glad to see that you are trying to rid yourself from this addiction. This is the best first step that you made. Just by coming here, reading what others are going through, will help you in your recovery.

We need to make a lot of changes in our life in order to get this Monster off are back. I hope that you see the changes that need changing, and get yourself clean from this. It is not an easy road by any means, but WE can beat this thing if it is in our HEARTS to do so.

I wish you the best in your recovery. Just remember, YOU ARE NOT HERE ALONE